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fears about being tested
      03/03/06 07:51 PM

I will get to the point. I had one unprotected sexual encounter 4 years ago. (Vaginal insertion, no ejaculation inside the body, don't know his status.) I never really thought about it until a few months ago when a friend of mine said she was being tested. That kind of made me start to remember how stupid I was. I'm a very closed person and don't feel comfortable talking about this with even my closests friends. I know from all of the research I've done that I am still at low risk. However, the fear of having contracted HIV is stressing me out. It's becoming an obsession. I am married as of 4 months ago, which is the reason I'm afraid to get tested. Funny how that should be more of a motivator, but it's not. I have a very supportive husband, but I think he would freak out if I told him about this. Like most people, he doesn't have an open mind about that which he fears and doesn't understand. (This just gets dumber on my part, but I'm writing because I need advice -- reassurance, really.) I really want to be tested so that I know, but I don't want to tell my husband I'm going to be tested and worry him if there is no reason for that. i think it would put unnecessary strain on our relationship at this point. I, naturally, would be nervous awaiting the results and he would be able to tell something's up. If I were to have tested positive and had not confided in him, I think that would cause a bigger problem in our relationship. I feel like I'm in a bit of a catch-22 here. Do I get tested hoping to be negative? Or do I tell him then get tested in case I'm positive? I'm probably be irrational, but I suppose I just have that tendency. I guess I'm just writing to see if anyone else has gone through a similar situation and how you dealt with it. Did you talk about it before being tested or got tested without talking about?

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