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Jenni
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He's positive, I'm negative... for now.
      11/06/05 10:21 PM

About 6 months ago we found out that my boyfriend of a year was HIV+. I was negative.

We were tested because he had applied for life insurance. They drew a few tubes of blood and we didn't think about it again. Then he got a letter saying that his policy had been rejected because of 'severe abnormalities' found in his blood. He didn't tell me at first. I still am not sure how long he had the letter before he told me. When he finally did he was so scared that I would leave him, hate him, never speak to him again. All I could do is cry.

We went together to be tested. Regardless of HIV status, he is the man I fell in love with. I told him that this would be something that we would endure together.

When we went to find out our results I didn't know how to feel. I wanted us to both be negative and be able to laugh it off. But I knew that whatever was wrong with him couldn't be good. They don't deny you life insurance unless you're dying....

When his test came back positive and mine was negative I was almost angry at myself... I didn't deserve to be okay if he wasn't. We had had unprotected sex for a YEAR. How could I be okay?

I am still in shock. It is so unreal. I can't get him to go to a Dr. to see if he needs meds yet. He just wants to ignore it and let it kill him. I can't stand it.

I'm going to be tested again soon. I'm scared. If I'm positive then he's going to feel guiltier than he already does. The only good thing is maybe I'll be able to get him to go to the Dr. with me.

I just don't know what to do to help him. I can't say it's all going to be okay because, realistically, it's not. He has a fatal disease with no cure. I try so hard to reassure him that I am not going anywhere but he still expects me to run any minute.

Is anyone else here going through, or have you gone through a similar situation? What do I do? How can I make him believe that I love him and we're in this together?

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It's you that I live for and for you that I die.
So I'll lay here with you until the final goodbye

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Subject Posted by Posted on
* He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Jenni 11/06/05 10:21 PM
. * Re: there is hope Anonymous   04/03/06 09:42 AM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Jan   11/13/05 09:51 PM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Aziz   11/11/05 09:15 AM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Buddha   11/10/05 10:02 AM
. * grow up and get serious Anonymous   11/10/05 12:34 AM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Anonymous   11/09/05 06:43 PM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Anonymous   11/09/05 08:54 AM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Anonymous   11/08/05 03:28 PM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Anonymous   11/07/05 06:48 AM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. ny10001   11/07/05 01:05 PM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Jenni   11/08/05 09:18 PM
. * Re: He's positive, I'm negative... for now. Anonymous   11/10/05 04:45 AM

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