IM hiv + and my husband is neg i have been + for 8 years. We have been married for 9years. He acts like he is embrasssed of me or something. He wont take me out no where. He put his clothes on fridays and i dont see him no more until saturday at noon. I know that he is cheating. he never said get dressed we are going out. But after i said something to him now he comes in about 5am. it hurts trying to cope. but i have got to the point if he wants her im going to let him have her. Sex life is no fun it just jump on jump off. No rubbing no touching. I like forplay. i understand it some things we cant do. but does it have to be this boring. he's not willing to try