Hey there Jesse..
I've definitly missed you too!! Where have you been? you took a small break from us there too huh?! hope your doing well.
to the poster who asked about the dad with hiv. I think your son is at a good age to understand what is going on with his father. boys without fathers in their life will be very sensitive. was he infected thru drug use? (perhaps this is a reason he is not consistant in his life). he may harbor alot of angry feelings toward his dad.....and may even still knowing what is going on. because he may feel like he "wants" to do something to help, or that his dad shut him out without giving him a chance--but atleast as he grows/and matures more, he may understand that it was not his fault. when is the last time he has seen his dad??
I wish you all the best. it might not be a bad idea to talk to him about it--but please try to remain as neutral as possible. its important for him to form his own feelings about what is happening--because if its explained with anger (and I totally agree/and understand how hurt and angry you must be) he will either hate him for "your" reasons.....or just the opposite, and be angry at you for it.
good luck...much love and prayers,