I'm 27 and recently moved back from Paris, France after living there 7 years because of a very unexpected diagnosis of HIV. Though I wasn't directly linked to the military, I worked for our government and left on my own... Though I have finally gotten through the shock, pain, finding a good doctor, etc... I have a HUGE (and possibly superficial) question...how does one date being HIV +, especially in the Mid-west! Is it more manditory to tell someone before intimicy or is it better waiting? Do I live like I did before (which was a NON promiscious lifestyle) or does that all change now? Should I expect rejection...I guess I should... In any case, my friends in France believe that nothing should be said until a long-term relationship/commitment is about to be made (using safe safe sex all the way, of course). But wouldn't an HIV - person DIE if he found out that the last three to five months (or longer) were spent with an HIV + person, even if safe sex was practiced!?! Plus, isn't that illegal not to tell him? I've heard people in the States say that we should be up-front and forward from the beginning... I personally don't know, yet. Maybe it's a cultural thing (we've had a few lately..) or maybe just a personal choice?
Though one thing is for sure: I'm definitely single now and would love to meet someone who understands my situation...
Please tell me what you think. Thanks!