It is sad what happened to you, but apparently in 1986 with the disease still being relatively new, ignorance was more prevalent than it is now, even though it still exists.
I joined a company in 1987 and a manager died of AIDS two months after I started work.
A few days ago, the former CEO of the company told me some horrifying stories about the way this woman was treated before she died of what is believed to be mental stress/depression.
When she went to restuarants, dishes she was served in were destroyed before she left. Hairdressers would throw combs and bruses away that were used on her hair, co-workers shunned her and no longer allowed her in social settings. She was made to leave her own home!
I am not a military person, but I can understand your hurt. Have you ever approached the military about this? Have you checked on the change or lack of change in their policies so that the practice can discontinue.
Maybe you should let them know that six months has passed many times and you are still here.