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Reged: 05/15/13
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Loc: Alberta, Canada
Re: Being honest backfired
      05/24/13 04:47 AM

I'm reading alot of drama with Trav and his HIV. First things first, when I found out, I embrassed the moment. I looked at it as something I knowingly did wrong that got me this, and so I accept it. I think acceptance of yourself and your HIV is very important in the early stages. The one step at a time, you can tell doctors and HIV health care professionals who you "slept with", "shared needles with" whatever and they will call these people on your behalf or attempted annonymously and inform them they should be tested. It makes accepting this considerably easier and less stressfull than pulling out the little black book and going "oh crap".
Then the ball is in their court, they have the option of testing and confronting you, but atleast the pain is eased somewhat.
If a year had past in this relationship breakup, and there is a test that came back negative, the guy is still upset I would think he is concerned for Trav, maybe as what could have been or just as a friend ... maybe a little upset that there was a past risk but if brought to light that the first Positve test was just recently, then way back a year ago, in the heat of the relationship, some honesty and testing should have been done then.
If honesty now drives a wedge between friends, then there was nothing there, fair weather friendship, but if there was something maybe this guy is just trying to be there now. Love is still possible, sex a little risky but possible, but if it is a relationship it can still be had, there is many ways of pleasing a person sexually in this sitaution. The one thing I recommend to Trav ... drop the drama ... accept what you have ... I won't even say "deal with it", that's wrong, I would recommend no more looking back, take what was given to you, work it into your life, and look forward. Stay on your meds, go for your regular Doctors visits and tests, listen to what others say about their experiences and take the doctors orders. Keeping in mind sometimes doctors just have to shake there heads too, when a patient adds the drama.

anotherday ... in paradise!
daily ponder ... be the reason someone smiles today!

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* Being honest backfired Trav 05/21/13 03:29 AM
. * Post deleted by Becky AIDS2HIV   05/23/13 11:30 PM
. * Re: Being honest backfired Trav   05/24/13 01:22 AM
. * Re: Being honest backfired kicker   05/24/13 01:31 AM
. * Re: Being honest backfired Trav   05/25/13 02:42 AM
. * Re: Being honest backfired anotherday   05/24/13 04:47 AM
. * Re: Being honest backfired riverprincessModerator   05/21/13 11:56 AM

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