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Re: when and how to tell my teen kids
      06/05/11 01:00 PM

Maybe I am asking a stupid question, but why do you feel you need to tell them?

The question I ask myself when considering telling anyone is, "Is there anything positive this will bring to the relationship?" The only relationship that has had a positive resounding answer to that question is with my girlfriend, who is the only one who knows (and she was with me at the time I was diagnosed).

I do not plan to tell my children - not out of shame, but because I don't want to worry them. I just don't see anything beneficial from them knowing. My girlfriend (my life partner) and I have grown so close from me being diagnosed and her being there with me when the doctor gave me the news, but I do not see any reason to disclose to anyone else.

It's a very personal choice, that is different for everyone and each relationship. But, you must consider this: once it is out, it is out, period. For me, unless I see something really beneficial to the relationship by the other person knowing, I keep it to myself, but that is just me. You have to do what you feel is best.

I do have a question for you, would your children knowing help mend the rift between you and your wife? Have you asked her how she would feel if they knew? I would take her feelings into consideration since you are still married, and I would guess, are hoping to be happy together again one day.

These are just some thoughts I have, but I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide to do, and do understand your struggles, as a parent, as whether to disclose to your children or not.

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