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Reged: 06/18/09
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Re: A truly vicious circle.
      08/26/10 10:39 PM

Nibbler, You're doing a great thing by being there for your friend, but you may be overwhelming him. You've had 5 years to adjust to having this disease. Your friend hasn't. He needs time and patience. Be there for him when he realizes that you're offering to help. But, don't be in his face every day.

He may adjust. He may not. Chances are that if the two of you were friends before you probably have similar traits that means he will.

Despite the fact that HIV is no longer an instant death sentance many people still find it probably the biggest blow in their life. In reality it isn't something that anyone can get over. We learn to live with it. And, not overnight.

Your friend is going through some denial. Common when presented with life changing information. He's seeking input from people who have denied him in the past, so that he can take their denial and make it his. Let him do this for a time. As long as he's not turning his back on his healthcare I suspect things will eventually return to something that approaches "normal". But, you also have to be ready for the possibility that he may never again seek your friendship. Don't hate him for this. Accept it as life ever changing.

And, take your strength in needing/wanting to help others and channel it into other productive venues. No matter where you live I'm almost positive there are organizations that can use volunteers. Maybe not in the field of HIV but someone out there would appreciate your wanting to help.

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* A truly vicious circle. nibbler 08/23/10 09:46 PM
. * Re: A truly vicious circle. meandu   08/27/10 12:15 AM
. * Re: A truly vicious circle. iam1   08/26/10 10:39 PM

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