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Reged: 06/18/09
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Re: Just over a year being HIV +...
      01/06/10 07:14 PM

Wonderbread, Have I got news for you. You know when you're finally going to stop wondering about all the aspects associated with HIV? Never. Luckily, you sound like a fairly normal person, so I imagine that you will adjust to being infected, but it's going to take time. And, there will be those days far into the distant future when you just want to sit down and cry.

A support group is an excellant idea! I recommend it to nearly everyone I meet who has recently (within the past 20 years) found out they're HIV+. Some people look at me like I'm crazy, but whether they realize it or not it's comforting to be in a room with other people who know what you're going through. You don't even have to say anything if you're not ready. But, there will come that day when you suddenly decide that you know enough about yourself to let other people into your life.

The "good" part about being HIV+? IF you go you'll be seeing the doctor regularly for many, many years. But, you have to decide for yourself that you need and want to go. And, if you have a clinic in your community as good as the one we have here you'll come to like and appreciate the employees who work there.

I've been HIV+ for well over 20 years. I go to a weekly support group. I go to my clinic visits every 3 months. (I'm probably healthier than just about anybody else there.)

I'd be lieing if I said I never got depressed. But, I can deal with it. How you deal with it is what's important. (I don't recommend drinking lots of alcohol, trying to personally jumpstart the economy, or starting illicit drugs.)

Take your problems one at a time. You didn't get them all the same day. They're not going to all go away the same day.

Besides a support group you might look into seeing if there's an individual person you can communicate with. Someone like an AA or an NA sponser only for HIV. Maybe someone you can go out for coffee or lunch with once or twice a month.

As for your friends who refer to it as "that" - you need to look at them and see if they are still accepting of you for who you are. But, don't expect them to be able to understand what you're going through. I know with whom and when I can bring up the subject of HIV without making them feel uncomfortable. Don't rush it, but take time and learn about this disease. When you're more comfortable with it you'll be better able to speak to your friends about it. And, if they're still referring to it as "that" they are some of the very people who need to be educated.

ps - That debt you racked up - you're going to live more than long enough to have to pay it all off....

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* Just over a year being HIV +... wonderbread 12/20/09 03:46 PM
. * Re: Just over a year being HIV +... iam1   01/06/10 07:14 PM
. * Re: Just over a year being HIV +... MrJeff   12/29/09 05:52 PM
. * Re: Just over a year being HIV +... estanoche   12/29/09 06:41 AM
. * Re: Just over a year being HIV +... Rollins   12/27/09 11:43 PM
. * Re: Just over a year being HIV +... estanoche   12/29/09 06:33 AM

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