Re: sex with massage worker - TheBody.com's Bulletin Boards

Brian,

It sounds to me that you are in a low risk category. All of us here on this sight are extremely worried, regretful and guilty about our actions, but let's try not to let those actions rule our lives. If you read many of the other posts on this sight, you will see that your encounter was very low risk. I don't know what the effects of the baby oil would be on a condom, especially if it stayed on the entire encounter. If it did, then that is an ENCOURAGING thing. Your chances SIGNIFICANTLY decrease and many doctors on this sight may even say don't get tested. (See some of the posts from Dr. Rick) However, many of us know the anxiety, stress and feelings of worthlessness you are going through and they are evident by many of the postings. I would go get tested in order that you may start the healing process and to put your mind at ease. Regarding telling your wife, I would assume that is up to you. I told my fiancee of my indiscretion and she was more understanding than I could ever imagine. We are still having problems, but in my case, it was a huge relief to level with her. Others on this sight have not told their wives. I'm not judging which is correct, I'm simply stating that I beleive it is something you must figure out yourself. If you are a religous person, you may want to talk to your clergy. If not you may want to talk to a counselor. They would both be bound to confidentiality and offer advice. I will keep you in my prayers, as I do with many on this sight. Keep us posted and God Bless you. You can get through this!

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