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Re: Unhappy with my life
      03/17/11 05:30 PM

hi dad: in my experience, it's was always easy to make excuses to avoid emotional intimacy. i never felt very lovable and was sure being HIV+ knocked me out of contention for a meaningful relationship. it wasn't until after and AIDS diagnosis, a month in the hospital and 2 years of recuperation that, at age 50, i finally understood that a life full of 'business" was just a tactic i used to keep my emotional distance from people. confronted with death i realized that i've only got one stab at this thing called life. luckily, i met the man of my dreams, also with an AIDS diagnosis, and we have had 5 happy and wonderful years together.

i think we all are willing to make time for those important things in life. i'm sorry it took me so long to understand that i am one of the most important things in life.

i also have a couple of friends in your situation and i have seen them overcompensate to their ex's and families due to the guilt of "breaking up the family." maybe you could take a look at that and see if that's what is going on.

finally, if i were having your feelings i would seek the help of short term therapy to help get an outsider's perspective on your situation.

good luck to you. i would give your new found guy a chance. maybe he was sent to you to help you with the crazy life you have. partners have a way of doing that.

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* Unhappy with my life *DELETED* njpozdad 03/09/11 01:35 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life riverprincessModerator   02/08/12 02:35 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life NcLongtermer   02/07/12 09:05 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life Pozince78   03/18/11 06:24 AM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life MikeNUSA   03/17/11 06:23 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life njpozdad   03/18/11 12:13 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life psgoodguy   03/17/11 05:30 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life NcLongtermer   03/17/11 05:27 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life MissouriMammal   03/11/11 06:00 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life njpozdad   03/12/11 06:56 AM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life kicker   03/10/11 06:24 PM
. * Re: Unhappy with my life njpozdad   03/11/11 01:54 PM

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