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Re: telling my kids
      03/30/10 02:11 AM

I was in the same situation with my son who is now 17 years old going on 45. I have known myself to be HIV positive and positive with hepatitis C since March of 1997. At the time my son was only 5 years old back then. I thought about how and when I was going to tell him about his mom since that day. It was a long tortureous ten years before I did. I thought about it every single day and night and 1000 times in between. About 6 months after I found out, my husband divorced me and took my son from me. This thing, this virus, these horrible diseases destroyed my family and eventually my life (I thought). I finally decided to tell him when he was 15. If it were possible, I wouldn't have told him at all, but my ex's family was relentless. I just didn't want to lose him. I also didn't want him to hear it from anyone else. It was like a ticking timebomb. I finally found the right time and right place to tell him about it. NOT. Where is the right place? What is the right time? My heart was pounding so fast I thought it would burst, and I broke out in a cold sweat. Sitting across the table from me was my beutiful, perfect son and I was about to shatter his world. I just came out and explained it best I could and there was no holding back the tears. He was shocked. He looked like someone just punched him, and he sat there confused, scared, and hurt. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. After the initial shock, he just said, so what are we going to do today? For ten long years I stressed and worried myself almost to death of this very moment, and it was gone. As much as I didn't want to tell him, I am glad that I did. I believe it now plays a very big part on his decision making about his own life. My telling him may have very well saved his life from this disease. He needed to know that it made absolutely no difference in our relationship except that now the time we do spend together is more cherished. Only you know your own childrens emotional state and their abilities to cope with things. The only thing I can tell you for sure, is that your children do need to hear from you first. Hope I helped

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