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Re: telling my kids
      12/08/09 01:08 PM

Hi Gigi,

your kids sound like they are at an age where they can process such info. I mostly deal with disclosure to kids that are HIV positive themselves but I'd think the 'procedure' is not much different in your case.

I think before you tell them that you have HIV it is important that they understand what "HIV" is. Otherwise it's really just a scary word that doesn't mean much other than what they might've heard on TV or at school.

What I usually recommend to the parents is to sit your kids down when you have time and are both relaxed (i.e. not rushing to go anywhere, or exams or whatever) and say that you want to talk to them.

You could then ask them what they know or have heard about HIV to check whether they have the right information and if it is enough. Check that they've understood it well before you tell them that you also have it. It's really important that they understand what 'having HIV' means, both physically as well as in terms of how it would impact on their lives.

They might have a lot of questions now or need to have some space to process it first. Also make them understand why you haven't told them earlier if that comes up (this might not be so relevant in your context- I'm just drawing from my experience with infected kids).

With your oldest you could maybe also discuss prevention strategies so that he knows how to protect himself in the future, once he has sex.

The way I usually explain HIV/Immune System/CD4 cells etc. to kids is that I tell them about the 'body soldiers' in the blood that make up the immune system and protect your body from diseases and that there is a germ/virus that lives in YOUR blood that your body soldiers can't fight all by themselves. That's why you take medicines to make the germ sleep, so that the germ can't hurt your body soldiers. That way your body can work just as well as anyone else's, with the exception that you need to keep taking these medicines so that the germ stays asleep.

I hope that helps!

Magnetic Mama

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