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is there nobody like me......
      #262655 - 04/24/12 10:33 AM

hello,im a young lady in my early 30's and would like to have someone i can talk to in magnetic marriage whereby i married a pos man while im neg.we went into this marriage fully aware of what was going on,now we both want a children and ivf is very expensive in our part of the world(south africa) so we have decided to try it the natural way whilst saving up for ivf because i have a problem wit irregular periods so pregnancy might be difficult for me.we using our DR/HIV specialist in everything we what i need is someone who has gone thorugh the same thing or atleast familiar because sometimes it gets so difficult i really need support besides my dr and hubby no one else knows our magnetic i need someone to talk to.has anybody even been succsessful and had a baby uninfected or am i just dreaming the impossible....i need a friend(s)

thank you so much for the support

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      #262656 - 04/24/12 11:41 AM

Good morning. When i found out about my hiv poz status i was already pregnant with my now 15 yr old daughter. My ex husband who is negative, and i had been having unprotected sex for close to 4 yrs and throughout the marriage sometimes we would have sex w/o a condom. he is still negative and so is our 15 yr old daughter. just follow the dr's advice. i took meds while i was pregnant to decrease the risk of transferring this to my baby and then they gave her a 6 wk course of meds and she is a happy, healthy 15 yr old.

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      #262670 - 04/24/12 11:34 PM

If you look into the personl stories in this site and also the living topic you will find women that had very happy healthy children. Nowadays that is not a problem. Check it out for yourself and I am sure it will encourage you emensely.

Look up to the Heavens for the answers to Lifes questions .

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      #262696 - 04/26/12 04:36 PM

Hi there,

I am in a magnetic relationship with my first love. We met up again about 8 months ago, both been married and he disclosed to me within weeks of us meeting up again. I was unbelievably devastated, i thought it was impossible that we could have a relationship.

Wow, how much i have learnt!! We have had a very tough honeymoon period, i had to go on Pep twice and it was pretty harrowing....more due to ignorance than anything. So much stress and anxiety. When i think of the shock i felt when he told me, i think about the shock it would bring to my parents if i told them the love of my life has hiv. I am close to my parents but i don't need to put this on them. They would worry....its been hard not having the support but i feel stronger for dealing with this all myself.

My sister and best friend know and my partners mum and stepdad know. I think they think i'm an angel for going through all this with their son but i love him so much that it's the most obvious thing to do in the world for me. I was married to a man i didn't feel half of what i feel for this guy.

He was always the one, we were young and and when it ended, i think i settled. But i think everything happens for a reason and we came back together because i have always found it hard to truly love and this is the ultimate proof that i truly can.

Sexually, we used condoms intially - total passion killer, really difficult as well when you just want to be close. The docs told him to go on medication. At first it was more to protect me but when his count was done, it looked like the right time anyway so divine intervention really - i didn't like the thought of him starting too early because of me.

Then came the amazing news.....after a few months we could decide whether to use condoms or not. And if we wanted a baby.....we could do that too!! ( we both have children, i have a 7 year old and his is 4 so we are not sure whether we could deal with another but we'll see).

Well that was it! Did i have to think about that for a second? Hell no!! So for the last few months thats what we've been doing, having unprotected sex. The thing is, his doctor changed and the new one said he wouldn't recommend unprotected sex as there is still a chance. Do you think they are just covering their backsides?? Just in case??? I read the Swiss study and i think that the uproar afterwards was in case the odd time, transmission does occur??

Anyway, i don't know your feeling on this but would be interested. I just did a post asking how many hetrosexual discordants are practising unsafe sex because i would really like to know how many have seroconverted whilst on medication.

The thought of going back to condoms is not the best :-((

Anyway, would be good to hear from you. I am in the UK. Never thought i'd be in this situation but i am. Would rather be in this with someone i truly love than not with someone i truly don't.

Lots a love

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      #270634 - 02/16/13 07:57 PM

I'm poz female married to my negative husband and we have a 2 1/2 year old negative son.

I'm on meds and undetectable my hubby after sleeping with me almost 7 years never protected is still negative. I was diagnosed when I was pregnant so we had been having un-safe sex for years by then, and I have still never passed it to him.

It's easier for a male to pass to a female but if he's on meds and undetectable the chance is very low.

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