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Doctor bad experience
      #271298 - 03/22/13 07:25 AM

Hey everyone,

I have just finished a visit with the ear specialist because a tinnitus I have in one ear (I hear a sound without any external source). After x-ray and explorations it has turned out to be that I have swollen adenoids and swollen lymph.
She was freaking out about that in an adult so I finnaly told her that I was positive and that might be the reason. It has been a very displeasing experience. She has accused me of hiding it and exposing her to infection. (I wonder how and ear exploration without any blood involved can cause an infection at all). She told me that I should always disclose it so extra precautions are taken. I asked her about other viruses and sterilization but she said that HIV was specially contagious so special considerations should be taken as a simple needle contact would be enough.
And if i didn't disclose it in every medical or sexual contact I had I was a traitor then. Then she took all my papers at wrote and underlined "HIV PATIENT".
Of course everything we had talked about had no more meaning. I was supposed to have my adenoids removed but now she says it's too risky. I have had a lot of operations nonetheless.

It has been my fault as I shouldn't have disclosed to a person which is obviously very ignorant outside her ear specialty. I got the opposite lesson: I will never tell again. she made me feel like a fucking silent assassin.

Just wanted to get it out from my chest!


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      #271299 - 03/22/13 10:05 AM

Wow! I'm so sorry to hear of your experience. That definitely should have been handled more tactfully on her part. It was a simple exam. It's amazing that a medical doctor can be that ignorant.

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      #271307 - 03/22/13 04:37 PM

If you feel that the doctor acted inappropriate for a medical professional and they are refusing a course of treatment based solely on your positive status, you can report them to your state medical board. Also I would remind them of the AWD act that clearly states that they as a medical professional can not refuse you treatment based on your status. Unless they are willing to lose their right to practice medicine and open themselves up to legal action. Regardless of your disclosure or lack there of.

I would give them the opportunity to correct the situation if they do then great. If they continue to refuse treatment or treat you substandard then contact a lawyer and the medical board. If you choose to not be a victim and be an activist. Otherwise find another dr and ask upfront if they have an issue with treating someone who is positive before even making an appointment. Then you won't have situations like this otherwise if you do nothing either way you will continue to have situations like this.

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      #271318 - 03/23/13 12:18 PM

I don't always disclose. I don't see it as necessary all the time. There is no law saying you have to disclose. She is suppose to use the SAME precautions on ALL patients. Just what does she do about those patients she treats that might not know they have HIV?

She should be reported.

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      #271343 - 03/24/13 03:11 PM

It's really unacceptable when that type of behavior comes from a medical office. I had a dental office call me back after making an appt for hubby , and yes I told them right then , but this receptionist that I found out was there for ages calls back and tells me they aren't equiped to handle him . I know it was a crock of crap , And I was sooo very angry about it. But you know what the shame is on them. I didn't want the exposure that would come with fighting them . I just saw her for what she was , a pathetic idiot.

Look up to the Heavens for the answers to Lifes questions .

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      #271372 - 03/27/13 12:31 PM

John, the behaviour you have described sounds unacceptable and ought to be reported. That medical professional will continue to act in that fashion unless educated by those in authority. I had a similar experience some years ago. You may like to read all about it on the following thread, and see how the matter was very effectively resolved. The thing to do is to ensure that in very step of the complaint procedure you write objectively and professionally. This will help YOU recover from the psychological assault you were subjected to, and it will also help that medical professional to act appropriately in future.

Best Wishes,

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      #271385 - 03/28/13 10:21 AM

John-This doctor needs to be reported for her actions. I asked my hiv doc about disclosure to other medical providers I may see and he said that ALL medical providers should be acting in a way to protect themselves from exposure to many illnesses and pathogens. Most Doctors operate assuming that a patient could have something they can be exposed to. So if your ear doc isn't practicing medicine in this manner then she's irresponsible. The only benefit to disclosing your HIV status to a medical provider is that the provider will assess your health in the context of your HIV. HIV people can be more prone to certain medical conditions that may be overlooked if the provider doesn't know your status. Sounds like this doctor is ignorant. Find a new ear doctor and report her!!!!

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      #271748 - 04/20/13 11:04 PM

John, you didn't mention if you are in a larger city or smaller town, but if you can you may want to seek out a gay doctor. They can typically recommend you to specialists who are definitely HIV-friendly. With all due respect to heterosexual physicians doctors/specialists/dentists/etc are the way to go if you are HIV+. There are always going to be clueless doctors, and even some outright hostile ones...don't go back to that doctor...too many good doctors out there.

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