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kclost
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How to stay upbeat?
      #270984 - 03/06/13 10:54 AM

Hi everybody. I've been all over the place emotionally since finding out, but reading over this board has helped. One thing I've noticed is a kind of sharp divide between people who seem to have a great outlook and trying to live normal lives, and some who seem really down and defeated. I know it will take time, but once I stabilize emotionally I want to learn to be strong with this, and let it interrupt my life and outlook as little possible. Does anyone have any tips on how to keep on the bright side?

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Mark100
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Re: How to stay upbeat? new
      #270985 - 03/06/13 12:52 PM

Hey Buddy,
for me I find what has helped me the most was coming on here and educating myself. The day I was diagnosed I was like omg, I'm gonna die. But once you come on here and hear other peoples stories and realise that hiv today is more of a chronic illness like diabetes, and if managed properly by nutrition and following taking your medication, we're gonna be just fine.

I'm a very active person so I love doing all sorts of activities and I find that's really helped a lot. I've joined yoga with a friend who's been trying to get me to go with her forever and I love it. I think this is really going to help me a lot. Besides that I go to the gym and run, both activities make me feel great. This morning for instance I woke up and felt terrible, I had a really bad sleep, but I know going for a run always makes me feel better, so dragged my butt out of bed and went for a run and afterwards I felt great. I guess you have to find out what works for you. But I'd say find things that you enjoy doing and do them. Cooking, going to the movies with friends, go on a vacation.....whatever works for you.

For me I guess the most stressful part has been should I tell people or not. And you know what, at this point I've decided that I don't need to tell anyone. I have my partner who knows and a psychologist I see once a month, and you guys on here and that's all the support I need at the moment. Besides that, no one else really needs to know at the moment. I consider hiv the same thing as being diagnosed with diabetes, or high blood pressure or something, I wouldn't run out and tell everybody I had those conditions, so why would I feel the need to go tell people this. I feel, at this point, it's a private matter and I'll tell people when I'm ready. So that takes a great deal of stress off me.

So don't feel bad, don't worry, it doesn't help any. Just know that we're gonna be around for a long time to come yet. They just cured a little baby of the disease last week and things are only going to keep getting better from here.

I guess maybe what you should do is look at exactly why you're feeling down and try and address those issues. If you get some answers to them, I'm sure you're going to see that there really isn't anything to feel down or scared about. It really doesn't change that much.
Cheers!
Good luck! ;-)
Mark


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lilfshrmn
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Re: How to stay upbeat? new
      #270993 - 03/07/13 01:48 PM

I have several mentors and some family with whom I've disclosed. They keep me upbeat with their compassion, love and caring. I adhere to my regimen. I also keep track of my symptoms, labs, feelings, in a journal and reflect over it occasionally. When I see side effects diminishing, fevers reduced, etc., I know I'm getting better and that there's hope.

Hang in there - we're in this together!


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Re: How to stay upbeat? new
      #271783 - 04/23/13 09:09 AM

My husband has been an Elite controller for over 20 years now. Has never had a registered viral load . We even had him re-tested once to make sure he really was infected. lol He now gives up mega vials of blood once a year to Mass general Hospital in Boston. The solution is there somewhere.

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Re: How to stay upbeat? new
      #271861 - 04/29/13 02:31 AM

Felt really great reading this post..thank you.

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Re: How to stay upbeat? new
      #271877 - 04/29/13 08:00 PM

It's all in the attitude. Life is full of challenges , whether poz or not and it's a matter of choice on how one deals with it. This diagnosis made me look deep within and truly look at who what and whys of life . And the answers I found were truly a blessing to my life. Oh and I also learned not to sweat the small stuff anymore.

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