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blackdante
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Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN
      #275210 - 02/01/14 11:40 PM

You know it has come to my attention that short of online dating sites that are mostly full of gay men there are not many set up situations for a poz male to meet poz females. I have a female friend who says the same thing. Im from Dallas and the have meeting groups that are segregated between men and women. I mean how ridiculous is that.

I know some people need help first and are not necessarily prepared for a relationship but for those who are set up something for them. Due to stigma is it nearly impossible for a straight poz man to meet a negative woman in this country, Positive women have it a lil easier.

We all believe in non discrimination well lets start more hetro gatherings as well. ANY thoughts or suggestions???

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riverprincessModerator
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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275240 - 02/03/14 03:20 PM

There is a site here. It's listed under the posting of Dating and Relationships. It's for Hetero as well as any other,your just looking and writing in the wrong catagory my friend.

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blackdante
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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275241 - 02/03/14 04:06 PM

i thought this was it???

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riverprincessModerator
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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275313 - 02/07/14 09:12 PM

oh my apology , I thought you were in the Gay catogory . My BooBoo. I know there seems to always women looking for men and even men looking for women. I could never figure out why these folks don't bump into each other here.

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anotherday
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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275317 - 02/08/14 11:11 AM

Well your on the right track, now make the train move! Bring it up at your group and with the help of your female friend, see if others are feeling the same way. Start your own group. it's not hard to do. Check with your local HIV Organization and tell them what you need. They can be a great resourse and if you have the right people at the helm, it is up to them to get things together for the people that require their services.

There are a few POZ dating sites that do have all sexual orientations to be signed up to, both for dating and just for friendships, The key to alot of this though is networking, there is alot of POZ people out there that don't make it the front of who they are ... it just takes meeting people, and when the time is right disclose your HIV, you never know the person right across the table from you may be trying to figure out how to disclose to you too!

Keep in mind though you mention "segregation", no matter what the illness, situation ther eis someone for everyone and when true love comes along, HIV should never be an issue. We as positive people should not have to seek out ONLY positive people now to make our lives happy.

Join some groups, start a group, start networking ... that old cliche of a "friend of a friend of a friend ..." might just find you someone! Those of us that fish in a small pond usually don't catch anything!

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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275321 - 02/08/14 12:28 PM

There is a reason why they may have segrgated groups for men and women, Women have different health issues with and without Hiv. And when it is brought up in a mixed group you find some guys start to giggle and make smart ass remarks, which is very distasteful and disrespecting. And it only takes one idiot to cause a group to separate.

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anotherday
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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275322 - 02/08/14 12:47 PM

Oh so true river, but from segregated "health/how to live with" groups, if people could break off and form a "going to the gym" club or "dinner and night club" group ... an opportunity for POZ people to get out and away from all the "health" stuff and just socialise together, casual talk about their experiences with HIV through social gatherings.

I think if HIV organizations would attempt to piece something like that together would help much more then all those "health" meetings. Or as our poster mentions, his friend and him, from their segregated groups ... see if people would be interested in a more social gathering group instead of just taking the information home and "brooding" over it. Have an organised group to book a gymnasium and have an evening of basketball or a bowling league .... something not always "learning how to live with" but actually "living with" ... HIV!

As one of our most loved previous moderators wanted to see happen with this website, not to always have the "looking for help" or "oh woe is me I have HIV" stuff, but to talk about our life experiences, what we're doing, how we have real lives day to day. So people can see it's not a big scary thing to live with HIV!

If this website can bring this many people together to share our journies, imagine what doing something locally can do. I mean after all they are at the "health" meetings together, why can't they have a social meeting. I know some will say regarding stigma and keeping it private, but they are at the meetings anyway ... get a regular group together to go do something, and from there friendships and romance could happen!

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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275326 - 02/08/14 05:57 PM

I do understand what your saying another. And I agree fullheartedly . Which is why for the past 3 years I have been able to get free tickets for different event. Whether it is the local semi professional baseball game or to a play , and now I found a way t9o get group tickets to go to the movies , and again all donated. A girlfriends womans support groups has events geared toward just women. I remember many years ago the group I'm with got together with a couple of other Hiv groups and we all went on the Circle Line cruise that went around Manhattan. It was a blast. And I will contine to put events together ads much as possible. But there is still the need for ladies to have just their gender groups as well as for men.

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familyfirst
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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275328 - 02/08/14 08:54 PM

I feel you brother im a single hetero male myself and yes seems like every where we turn it is about every one but us. I think if you work with me I have a solution to everyones problem. i have a web site with chat rooms for people with HIV. right now Im working on building up traffic to the site but the more people we get there the better chance you could have to meet and talk real time with single poz women and vis versa you could ask river she is a good freind and we have worked together on the site for a while. but please stop by and join in you can find me in the friends and family chat room. www.motivatedformankind.weebly.com

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lovableo
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Re: Poz Heterosexual Dating Crisis for MEN new
      #275353 - 02/10/14 02:28 AM

I've tried different sites but they seem deserted. I'm a 44yr old heterosexual African American female from Illinois and still looking.

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