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Is my husband acting normally?
      #1070 - 03/31/00 04:21 AM

I am so glad to have found this part of this site. I have been
reading "The Body" since early last year when my husband was
found to be + but, have never been here before. My heart goes out
to all of you who are going through this for those of us who
still love oyr partners and want to see them through this are all
in the same boat. Some things are actually harder on us than them
because we shield them from a lot of the stress. I too am the one
who does all the research, talking to doctors, taking care of
meds, paying the bills, etc. but it's all worth it. Last year we
thought my husband would die within a few months and now he's
fine other than drug side effects. VL down, cell count up,
gaining weight, etc.. I have had to get a lot stronger and learn
to shut out things I can't do anything about. He is still having
a hard time mentally on some levels which I guess is to be
expected and I try to deal with that. OK, now after patting
myself on the back forever here's my question and problem: My
husband has an x who has never let go. She was married, now
divorced. They have a child together who's 13. They are -. Since
her divorce she calls him and finds reasons for him to see her
constantly. She knows he's +. He does nothing to discourage her
other than tell her he's not sleeping with her or leaving me. He
finally admitted to me that he's afraid something will happen to
me (dangerous job) or I'll get tired of the hassle and leave him
and he won't have anyone to take care of him. Do you think this
is normal? What to do? Susanne

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It's hard to answer your question new
      #1073 - 03/31/00 04:21 AM

Hi Susanne! Welcome! It's hard to tell what you are asking. Is it
normal for someone who has become very dependent on you to fear
that something may happen? Sure. & my dear you deserve lots of
pats on the back! Supporting anyone who has a life-threatening
job is not easy--your husband may wonder if he would do the same
if he roles were reversed. Of course his ex is interested in him
now--he's in danger. Hopefully he'll have lots of self-control.
You'll get lots of support here if you stick around! Karen

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