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Caring medical attention is essential
      #1049 - 03/31/00 04:11 AM

It was February 28th. I am standing next to the nurses room
trying to get my partner's nurse attention. She sees me and comes
to me. I asked very nervous: "did you get the results yet?" No it
seems they have been delayed, I know it is difficult." the
conversation goes on and she tells me that they are signs he
might be positive. His T-cell count is very low . . . Also the
cracking od his lungs when his breaths really sounds like an HIV
related pneumonia. Somehow, she was telling me without making it
official. I left thinking that this was the end of it. We were
both going to die. That's the first time I understood our life
would be different form now on. It was not the end of the world
it was just the begining of a new one. A few days later the
doctor officially announced that he was positive. I figured that
I would be positive as well, and was not in a hurry to find out,
but I eventually got tested and tested negative. My partner
started the cocktail therapy as soon as he came out of the
hospital. After a month, his viral count was undetectable, but
his T-cell count was still under 200. It now been a little over 3
months that he started the treatment and his T-cells are a 500,
virus load still undetectable. I am still testing negative. There
is hope. If you just found out that someone you love tested
positive, you need to know that there is hope! Give them all your
love, be there for them, I turely believe that the love you give
to a patient is as important as the medication they take. Don't
give up, and they won't give up! JC.

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Re: Caring medical attention is essential new
      #1053 - 03/31/00 04:13 AM

After purchasing this computer, I immediately began searching for
a letter like yours. My friend is also +, and we have been in a
relationship over a year. I did not find out that he was + until
about October. We have had unprotected, yet I continue to test -
. I wait on the hammer to fall but it hasn't yet. I continue to
love him, regardless of the infection and find that the hardest
part in him loving himself. Any suggestions???

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Scared and angry

my friend has had a hard time with self worth new
      #1056 - 03/31/00 04:14 AM

rick, I too have noticed that my friend has had a hard time with
his self worth since we found out.I try to make it a point
everyday to give him a hug and to tell him that i love him.I feel
that he is afraid that i couldn't love him anymore.Well i do.I
make it a point to be very active in searching for answers about
different meds,side effects, etc.Actually i am the agressive one
when it comes to asking questions to his docters.The first time
we left the docters office,he asked me why i ask so many
questions.I told him because we need to find the best ways to
treat him so we can have a life time together.I think that was a
turning point for him.We now talk about safe sex.We want to keep
me negative,but we want to be able to still have a physical
relationship.We talk about so many things that we never would
have discussed before.This has brought us closer.My best advice
would be to found out everything you can about hiv and to be open
with him about your feelings.Also be there for him and let him
know everyday that you love him !! scared and angry

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