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Vampyre
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Possibly pregnant...
      #27780 - 02/04/02 06:59 PM

Hi...

I am a 26 year old, HIV+ female. I have been diagnosed 4 months but have had no tests as to what my viral load or cd4 count is or anything. Mainly because I have avoided going anywhere near the clinic to talk about it. Also, I am on no medication because of this...

Now, I have had unprotected sex with a new partner who is unaware of my HIV status and I am worried that I might be pregnant. I would love to have kids so it is not that which worries me, it is the risk of the baby being infected, and what will happen to me during pregnancy and what the chances of my partner having been infected are.

I went to the clinic today and met a health adviser who refused to give me info but told me that I am stupid and have risked someone elses life because I wanted sex. She lectured me about the fact that I have no right to do that, and that I should control myself more. She gave me the morning after pill and told me that I have to take it because I can't have a baby if I am +ive.

She wouldn't even let my friend come into the room with me even though i said it would help and was what I needed. She said there wasn't enough space in the room for my friend as well, but there were 3 chairs when I got in there.

She also picked up on the fact that i have a history of problems with self-harm and had a go at me saying that she hopes i have stopped that because IF i am infected (like she doesn't believe me) then I am putting the lives of other people at risk doing that because they have to touch me to stitch me up.

She also said that i will have to have a repeat HIV test as I didn't test at that clinic because I could go in there and tell them anything at all (like, why would I tell them I had tested +ive if I hadn't? - HIV is not a fashion accessory that people want (sorry, preaching to the converted there I guess)).

I am so freaked out by this whole experience that I don't think I can bring myself to go back there and have the tests. I don't think I will ever be able to set foot in the place again. But I have no where else to go...

And if I am pregnant then I will need checks...

The other she kept asking about was how I got +ive in the first place and I told her that I had an incident with 2 men. She wouldn't let it go until I had told her that they both raped me and when and how. It was horrible and I feel really bad now because I keep thinking about it and playing over the events of the rape in my mind...

Anyway, any advice anyone can give me about how I go about sorting out what to do if I am pregnant or any of the rest of this would be much appreciated.

Also, do I tell my new partner my status, or just hope?

Thank you for reading this....

Vampyre




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Re: Possibly pregnant... new
      #27799 - 02/05/02 06:36 PM

Yes tell immediately. It is unreal that you would put someone else at risk like this....you need mental help if you knew you were positive & still did this!



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Re: Possibly pregnant... new
      #27807 - 02/05/02 09:05 PM

Thank you for that helpful advice. This may surprise you but I did not intend for it to happen. I did not think "I will have unprotected sex with this guy and see what happens". It was a spur of the moment, passion thing (i guess you've never had one of those).

I told him anyway and so it doesn't matter anymore. I guess I am supposed to be celibate if I am +ive and never feel the kind of surprise of passion that i did on saturday.

I am sorry that I posted this message. I thought this was supposed to be a 'support' board, not a 'let's cast aspertions on what other people have done' board or a 'make someone who needs help feel like they are a total bitch' board. Obviously I was wrong.

Well thanks. I am sorry to have been in the way.




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Re: Possibly pregnant... new
      #27916 - 02/07/02 04:57 PM

get a good hiv specialist and start seeing a therapist. Are you ready to have a child? If you are not together then it will be difficult. Also having unprotected sex with people also puts you at risk for sexually transmitted infections like hpv which could cause cancer! and these stds are more difficult in people with hiv. Girl! you gotta think these things out and be responsible!



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Re: Possibly pregnant... new
      #28664 - 02/23/02 02:50 PM

YOU PURPOSEFULLY INFECTED SOMEONE IF YOU KNEW YOU WHERE INFECTED, IM NOT CASTING JUDMENTS BUT YOU HAVE HIV , YOU KNEW IT AND POSSIBLY CENDEMMED SOMEONE ELSE WHILE YOU WHERE HAVING YOUR BOUT OF PASSION.. MAYBE YOU SHOULD CONSIDER MED ATTENTION



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