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trish
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Reged: 11/28/06
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Divorced and Lonely HIV +
      #216165 - 11/28/06 04:25 PM

I tested + in 1994, right after I moved to US and got married. After 7 rocky years, my husband left me for another woman. He was - and couldn't understand what I am going thro. Right now I am undetectable on meds, but don't want to go out because of fatique. I am lonely, don't want to date +, but how to tell someone my status? What to do? We were divorced over holidays and I am so sad, and cannot go home to my family.

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sueszoo67
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #216628 - 12/02/06 08:21 AM

I am poz 15+ yrs, I am going thru a very bitter divorce from a 15 yr marriage, (he is not poz) mine also started over the holidays last year. I have found huge relief from a few web sites where not only can we chat with others in our situation, I have also made great friends even met a man I dated for about 6 months(turned out to be a player). try www.positivesingles.com that is the best one I have found but if you just google hiv dating you will find about 15 of them. Keep your chin up girl, God didnt put us on this earth to be alone and we will both find the man that we were meant to spend our lives with. Divorce isnt the end just a new, fresh begining. If you would like to talk please feel free to contact me.

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Anonymous
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #217276 - 12/06/06 08:14 PM

Trish, please dont let that little virus invade into your happiness. Many people have something to worry about. HIV is not your world its part of it. Ive seen many negative women loney for years. Dont let HIV or anything take away from your passion to date and love someone.

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Anonymous
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #217333 - 12/07/06 09:57 AM

Hi Trish,

Sorry to hear about your prognosis. Unfortunately , there are many many women in this world who are going through the same thing that you are. I would like to advise you to take each day as it comes... not all days will be bad....

Question.... why are you feeling so lonely? Do you think it is because you are isolating yourself from others because of the virus... well ... I am sure that you were not born with the virus and you did not give it to yourself, so stop blaming yourself and get out there and enjoy your good days.... Each day should be seen as a blessing... take up a hobbie or project that is within your reach, get interested in something.... do not waste your time away.... feel better=look better. I have had my bad weak, sick days when I felt as if I could not go on. I am waiting to be tested but I am enjoying everyday till I get my results and plan to enjoy my days after that. i understand more than u think, but you have to want to enjoy yourself and live your life.... forget your ex.... that is in the past... live for trish now and most important enjoy life... safe of course...

Be a blessing

Lyssa



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Anonymous
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #217337 - 12/07/06 11:07 AM

Trish, I have found it very helpful to seek out a support group, to discuss these issues with others in the same or somewhat similar situations. I encourage everyone who lives in or near New York City to check out a wonderful organization called Friends in Deed. Their website is www.friendsindeed.org. If you don't live near NY, you could still call them, or Body Positive, and ask if they can suggest support groups in your area. Good luck. You are not alone.

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frilly
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #217540 - 12/08/06 02:59 AM

hi trish,
i've been pos since 1984 and married since 93 (he's negative). he's supportive, loving and we're still very much in love. doesnt mean to say we haven't had hard times. jeez, who hasnt!
it is possible. there are good guyz out there. just gotta find him.
go get him girl! suez's idea about single sites and chat rooms are a good idea not only to find a partner but also a forum to gather information and learn to stop feeling like "damaged goods". i'm not damaged goods - i'm a unique, luxury article - lol!
all the best
cheers
frilly

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Anonymous
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #217817 - 12/10/06 10:52 AM

Hi.There are a coupe of ways that I found to be helpful.One is tohave a medicine bottle at your residence with your name scratched off of it,Hopefully you have enough trust in the person you're talking with to invite him to your residence..Leave the bottle in plain sight where your guest can see it.If he asks about it tell that a friend of yours confided to you that they have the virus and came by to talk to you about it because he or she values your opinion.Thenpretend to call the person to tell them that they left their med bottle....of course your pretending on the phone but let the guest believe you are making the call.Then ask your guest what's his opinion on the hiv issue of hiv.I 've found this way to be a good icebreaker.I know of another way but my fingers are a little tired(smile).My name is James and you can contact me at jaabea@yahoo,com and let me know how this went if you choose to try it.Take Care and Have a great day.

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Anonymous
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #217892 - 12/11/06 02:35 AM

You don't need to be lonley. There are some ways of keeping youself happy. HIV/AIDS is not a death sentence. Look to GOD he will keep you. If you need help you can email me and give me your telephone number. My email gilbert_chewe@yahoo.com Telephone 0313072691 / 0731886131. I am in Durban South Africa. You need to very free.

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Anonymous
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #218011 - 12/12/06 12:53 AM

Don't worry my sister, it really happens in life these are ups and downs. What i urge you to do is to read your bible everyday and socialise with friends so that you don't feel lonely. If you read in matthew you will find that the lord says let me carry your burden so that you may find rest. Dwell in the lord coz he is alpha and omega. At first you were negative and now you are positive, the lord is there for your don't worry.

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lilwolf_misty
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #218532 - 12/16/06 07:05 PM

Why do you only want to date neg men? I have a roommate who is poz and he is a great guy he is very lonely this time of year and has been abused by neg women. He is looking for a woman that loves jokes, watching cartoons, cuddleing, he likes to go out, but sometimes he gets too tired so he needs someone that understands the nuances, he also needs a woman that doesn't mind the dog sleeping in the bed or the dog cries all night. He is my fiance's brother who is by the way poz too I am neg, but I am a caring person. My roomie lives with me and my fiance and the last girl he had wanted to take him away from his support system (us) if you are interested in knowing more or if anyone else is reading this and would like a picture of my roomie I would be glad to send it my yahoo id is lilwolf_misty@yahoo.com or if you want to talk to him just even as a friend his name is demietryus@yahoo.com :) Happy Holidays

Misty

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Anonymous
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #223575 - 01/23/07 07:20 AM

I feel your pain. I am there nowmyself. There should be lowcost and free quailty counseling available to couples and singles aliike.

Coping skills empathy are crutial in any relationship,

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thegoodson13
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Reged: 04/08/10
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #249988 - 04/08/10 09:04 PM

I can understand what you are going through. I have been through some rough times myself, but I focus on staying healthy and know that one day I will find that right person for me. So if you would like to chat contact me.

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DAWAY
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Reged: 09/19/10
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Re: Divorced and Lonely HIV + new
      #252189 - 09/22/10 03:42 PM

Hi dont worry i am + 42yrs single, just help me be there. I will be your everlasting or come first and meet me we get marired in africa. my email for more news; conteh_d1@yahoo.com

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