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HI all...I am new at this so bare with me. This is very difficult for me and this is the first time I have been totally honest.
I am a married woman of 2 years, I have been with my husband for 5 years total. I cheated on him twice since we have been married. I had unprotected sex with 2 old boyfriends at two different times. The one boyfriend has a serious girlfriend of 3 years and is "clean" the other was tested 7 months ago and is "clean" he has been with the same girlfriend for a year now. Iwas with bf 1...2 1/2 months ago. I was with bf2...4 weeks ago on Friday. I was tested for STD's 1 week after being with bf2...Negative for clymidia, ghonnerra ect. 3 weeks later I developed a terrible bladder infection and i am on meds for 10days. It is day 5 and I am feeling somewhat better. I did go for a HIV test yesterday and the results are back tomorrow. I haven't had any other "symptoms" other than the bladder. Should I be worried of HIV infection? And was it too soon to get a swab STD test after 1 week exposure? Please help, I am pulling my hair out. I haven't told my husband, we were together twice the next day after I was bf2. We haven't had sexual relations since my baldder acted up. I am shaking with fear and hate myself. Plus I went COLD TURKEY off of my prozac during the time of these encounters. Let me know your conclusion to my drama.
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Anytime you have unprotected sex these days requires a hiv test I am afraid to say. 13 weeks since exposure is the norm. I know you stress is high, but you are doing right by getting tested. Please dont go into the "what if" syndrom. Wait for your results. I will point a couple of my friends to this thread who are better at windows than I. Stay tuned...
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I agree with Eric. It is always a good idea to get an STD check (and hiv) if you have unprotected sex. (even if you THINK their partners are clean). there are tons of people who will see me (with or without my husband) and ASSUME that I am fine. and we have been together for 8 yrs. so you cant assume ANYONES girlfriends are clean. I'm sure they will tell you at the clinic that you will need to retest at the 3 month mark for hiv. (dont worry much about it...but you should do it). BUT...in order to help you in the three months, you should get back ON your prozak.
its hard to say if a week is too soon for an std check. sometimes it can take 3 weeks for sypmtoms. (but i'm almost sure it can be detected before then).
keep in mind, if you are have sex with your X's, how do you know who they are with -- besides their girlfriends. (AND how do you know WHO their girlfriends are with). I'm not trying to scare you....but just hoping to advise that you do use condoms. even if they (or you) think it changes sex.
good luck,
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i am not real sure what to say except this.......... i cheated in my previous marriage. i never thought of using protection, at all. i never thought of hiv as an issue. then i got divorced. i decided to go back to my daughters dad (1st husband). we had been back together a month and decided to get remarried. BAM! we find out he is hiv+. i tested negative, but once my 3 months was up, i too came up positive. never ever think it cant happen to you or wont happen to you. the one person you think is safe, may just be the one that gives it to you. many people like myself, do not test at all. i never dreamed my husband would be positive, but he is, and now so am i. you are going to have to wait the 13 weeks though to be absolutely sure. i know that sucks really bad, but it is a consequence of our actions. sure gives you plenty of thinking time. i was nothing shy of a walking basket case during that time. i beat myself up for every mistake i ever made and wished i could turn back the clock, only that was not an option.
if you dont think you can make it 13 weeks, then get a hold of both of the guys and go with them for a rapid test. that may help you to get through this time.
my other comment is probably going to upset you and that is not my intention, but if they were willing to cheat with you, then what makes you so sure that they have not cheated with others? just because someone says so, does not mean it is gold. my point being is just because they say they are negative, does not mean that is really how it is. always protect yourself from the unknown, for someday may be too late and the unknown may bite you right in the butt.
best of luck always,
daisey
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Well, like everyone has already said, 13 weeks is the best indication. Also like Daisey said, if they were willing to cheat with you what makes you think that they have not cheated before? As for them claiming they are "clean", which is not necessarily the best term to use, are they telling you this or have you seen the results on paper. Have they had protescted sex since that test? Were you there with them for that protected sex? See there are so many factors in the question of being poz and testing. I think you may want to be careful and use protection with your husband if you do not already do so at least until the 13 week test is back. Also, you may want to stay away from your ex's if this is going to cause you to cheat. You have married your husband for love and respect and I do not think he deserves for you to go out and cheat on him. I am not saying anything bad but you also do not deserve to have to go through this. Go back at the 13 week mark, get tested and then try being faithful to your husband. Also, PROTECTION if you do not plan on it.(or divorce)
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I got my results today NEGATIVE!!! I want it to stay that way. Thanks to all who believed and prayed for me.
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thanks for your insight, but you truly made me feel like crap!
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sounds to me like your past actions is what made you feel like crap ....maybe you dont realize how lucky you really are
truth hurts, and well, if the shoe fits........
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[quote]HI all...I am new at this so bare with me. This is very difficult for me and this is the first time I have been totally honest.
I am a married woman of 2 years, I have been with my husband for 5 years total. I cheated on him twice since we have been married. I had unprotected sex with 2 old boyfriends at two different times. The one boyfriend has a serious girlfriend of 3 years and is "clean" the other was tested 7 months ago and is "clean" he has been with the same girlfriend for a year now. Iwas with bf 1...2 1/2 months ago. I was with bf2...4 weeks ago on Friday. I was tested for STD's 1 week after being with bf2...Negative for clymidia, ghonnerra ect. 3 weeks later I developed a terrible bladder infection and i am on meds for 10days. It is day 5 and I am feeling somewhat better. I did go for a HIV test yesterday and the results are back tomorrow. I haven't had any other "symptoms" other than the bladder. Should I be worried of HIV infection? And was it too soon to get a swab STD test after 1 week exposure? Please help, I am pulling my hair out. I haven't told my husband, we were together twice the next day after I was bf2. We haven't had sexual relations since my baldder acted up. I am shaking with fear and hate myself. Plus I went COLD TURKEY off of my prozac during the time of these encounters. Let me know your conclusion to my drama. [/quote]
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