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TRmom
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Reged: 10/18/05
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Loc: Michigan
Pos. mom and dad with neg children
      #162042 - 10/18/05 10:26 AM

Wow It's been almost 3 years since diagnosis!
I never thought it would happen to me. I was not promiscuous. I had had only 1 other partner. Even through my college years I was carefull. I didn't want to get AIDS. I took it seriously. But, I met my husband and we fell in love. We dated for 3 years then got married and had twin girls along the way. Are children are everything to us both. 2+ years ago, my husband got very sick. It went on for 2 months. They blamed it on diabetes, work, stress, ect. No one thought about HIV. He eventually ended up in ICU with PCP. It was scary. He had a cell cd4 of 3. What a shocker.
Naturally, I assumed I also had HIV, we had been together for almost nine years. Looking back over his life we realized he must have gotten it shortly before we met.
My test did come back pos. only with very good counts cd4 690, viral 130. We think I had just gotten infected. We were trying for more children. Now our concern was the girls. They were negative :), Even though our specialist says they won't get it, it is hard sometimes not to worry about it. I am on meds now and doing well. There are still days when I hate it. When I'm angry that this has happened. Our family is solid though and we focus on the future.
I don't know any other women who are pos and raising a family. Would love to chat with some.


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Anonymous
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Re: Pos. mom and dad with neg children new
      #162174 - 10/19/05 06:12 PM

Welcome to these boards!

It sounds like you are strong even though you've not had the strength of others with HIV. What's your email address for those of us who have not registered here.

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TRmom
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Reged: 10/18/05
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Re: Pos. mom and dad with neg children new
      #162205 - 10/19/05 09:52 PM

Hi and thanks for the welcome
I do my best to be strong for my family, but some times it just feels lonely. MY e mail is trmom111@yahoo.com. Please e mail and tell me about yourself.

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Irina Tatiana
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Re: Pos. mom and dad with neg children new
      #162283 - 10/20/05 03:26 PM

Hello you are not alone. I´m positive and i have two childrens 5 and 6 years old they bot are negative, it is very dificult to my becouse i am always tired, sleeping to many hours but i make an effort and i tray to be strong an courage but you know its not easy, my e-mail is irina_tatiana@hotmail you can write to me and i´ll be happy to write to you back.

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TRmom
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Reged: 10/18/05
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Loc: Michigan
Re: Pos. mom and dad with neg children new
      #162289 - 10/20/05 03:51 PM

Hi. Thank YOU!
I do feel very cut off and I always worry that this affects my girls. I get up and do the best I can. But there are days that it is hard. I also fear how people will treat them if they knew. They are so sweet and innocent, it wouldn't be right. I'm sure you understand. I will email you soon.
Thanks for reaching out, I was scared that no one would. I'm tired of walking this path alone.


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Anonymous
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Re: Pos. mom and dad with neg children new
      #163030 - 10/31/05 04:12 PM

I have two children. Both of them almost grown now. They were 6 and 8 when I found out I was HIV+. There are times when this disease has to be dealt with and it is a family disease. However all in all the kids seem to have weathered growing up in a home with two HIV+ parents. They've weathered the gossip and whispers that you can't avoid in small towns. They've dealt with the extended illness of my husband. HIV is just part of the whole family dynamics, but it certainly is not a major part. And after all this...they are normal, healthy, happy, HIV- kids...and much better informed than even their teachers about what is a risk and isn't a risk, and how to best protect themselves from all STDs.

Kids can deal with a lot. Just make sure to supply lots of hugs and kisses.

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franfrog
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Re: Pos. mom and dad with neg children new
      #163853 - 11/10/05 03:00 PM

Hi. I am a positive mother. Found out 2 years after marrying my current husband he is -. Have 2 children from previous relationship. I found out when I landed in the hospital with PCP. Cell count of 52. I traced it back to my daughters father 8 years ago. Was very nervous about her test results and also my 11 year old son only because he was aroiund him. They both tested negative thank god. I know how you feel. It's a hard thing to deal with none the less if you have family you are taking care of. How has your husband been? Let us know

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