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TwinsDad
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Raising Children with HIV
      #158092 - 08/03/05 03:50 PM

Hello ladies,

I am posting this for my wife. She is still in denial and I want to help her with some information about raising children with HIV in 2005. Thank you for your cooperation.

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debtex
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Re: Raising Children with HIV new
      #158116 - 08/03/05 10:20 PM

This is a very early stage for your wife. Denial is a normal part of what we all go thru in the beginning. Of course she is worried about the kids. as mothers, we only want thier future to be okay, even if it cost us our own life.

You should invite your wife to this website. (it can help to talk to more positive women for a while for her to help not to feel so alone).

I've seen children who've been infected since birth and are doing fine, and I have also seen children fight with their parents so bad because they refuse to take these medications, hating the side effects, fearing that their friends will find out.....and missing alot of doses here and there can be terrible for their future of being able to take medications. but then their are other patients that we have in the clinic, who have done the right thing by medication wise (got it from a blood transfussion, or thru their mom being positive), and do GREAT, living having boyfriends (on of them is 24) and still very healthy. Its important to be patient but persistent w/ them for the medications.

Has she been seeing the doctor? how are her numbers? I'm sorry, this is going to be blunt and not right for me to say...its not my place, but you say your children have also been exposred to hiv in the last 5 months. (you say this is because of your recent contact). Would you be willing to share, how it is you think they got infected. ? I am just curious, because it seems bizarre that they would "both" get infected from a household accident, or an everyday occurance. Are you sure you were not positive before you got married? You can't beat yourself up for something you didn't know is there. but, I am curious as to how both your children were infected. (I pray for them everyday by the way....and they will be fine, you both as parents are doing the right thing by taking them to specialist, but really be strong about the medications?)_

take care,
debbie

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Re: Raising Children with HIV new
      #158138 - 08/04/05 12:35 PM

Thank you for your information. We cannot explain how they got infected at the same time. I just know that we are very close and we were kissing and sharing drinks specially during summer. I had some dental problems and my gums were bleeding a little bit. That's the only way that I can think of. I know for a fact that it didn't happen before because I was tested back on Dec 04 for some immigration papers. I went on vaction in Feb 05 and had sex with somebody I didn't know. It was protected sex but I as told you earlier I was having some dental problems and she kissed me during our affair. I felt so bad after that but I guess that this are the consequences of my sin. I really feel very bad. We are going for our counts this week. i hope not to start medicines with them until they get a little bit older, like in 2 more years. It will be easier for them to take a medicine at 5. Thank you again for your prayers, we really need them. God bless you

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Re: Raising Children with HIV new
      #158174 - 08/04/05 10:01 PM

I dont care what your situation. your kids would NOT, NOT, NOT NOT, AND LET ME REPEAT NOT!! become infected by you kissing them!!! Thats absolutely insane!!

I have 2 kids and have been infected for over 10 years, and have had TONS of dental work, while sharing drinks, and kissing my kids!! You would think that if your children were infected this way...atleast ONE of mine would be as well.

i pray for you and your family (especially the innocent children) but i cannot believe the situation about how your children became infected. Its just NOT possible, and there would be millions of children with hiv if this were the case.



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TwinsDad
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Re: Raising Children with HIV new
      #158183 - 08/05/05 12:56 AM

Can you please tell me more about your experience of raising your children?

Thank you very much

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Re: Raising Children with HIV new
      #161626 - 10/11/05 03:30 PM

It's going to be difficult, but you and wife should continue to show you children love, affection and make them the focus in your life. I have 2 children and been positive for almost 11 years. When you think you cannot go on, take a look at your kids faces; their laughter, their smiles and those pricesless kisses. That had been my saving grace; my hearts go out to you both. God bless. P.S. Your wife can still kiss and hug her children; there is no data anywhere that says human contact in terms of kissing people on the cheek and hugs is contagious. When she is no longer in denial, I hope she gets treatment; she has two blessings in her life who NEED her.

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Re: Raising Children with HIV new
      #192229 - 05/19/06 09:12 AM

maybe your children came in contact with blood from your
wife being on her period

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