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just tested positive
#262989 - 05/10/12 09:32 AM
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I am a lady of 30 years and 3 months ago i tested posive,my cd4 count was 244 and i immediately started on medication. I am five months pregnant which makes it all difficult for me. I am scared for me and my baby,though they tell me at the clinic the chances of the baby being ok are high since i am on medication> My partner also tested positive and have been supportive though he is scared to go for his cd4 tests. I havent told my family because i dont how they will react and it stresses me out . I wonder for how long been positive without knowing, i wonder if its been years since my cd4 count was s low. I am trying to cope with his but somedays its just hard for me
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hi there sabs and welcome. it can be tough, but at least you found out when you did and can keep your baby negative!
it would be nice to know when you were infected, but what's more important is that now you know and can treat it! a cd4 count of 244 is on the low side, but i'm sure it'll go up with treatment!
disclosing to your family is a big deal. you should wait until you are ready. no rush.
in the meantime, you and your partner should reach out to some HIV organizations in your area, http://www.thebody.com/index/hotlines/other.html, to see if they have counselors or support groups for you.
you can also read some of the information/advice we have at the just diagnosed resource center, www.thebody.com/content/49985/just-diagnosed-with-hiv-aids.html.
and of course, these bulletin boards are always here for you! everything will be ok. best of luck to you and your partner and soon-to-be newborn!
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The thing to focus on now is your baby to come. Don't worry about family , don't worry about how long you've bee pos. Just look forward to the new addition in your life. Be happy. All the other stuff really is nothing compared to the joyous miracle growing within you. Do you know whether it's a boy or girl? Do you want to know? Some folks say they'd rather be surprized. I ay your going to be so full of surpizing joy when that baby is placed on your chest that it won't matter if you already know what he/she is? Congrats !
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I also found out when i was pregnant with my youngest child who is now 15 yrs old and she is a healthy, happy and hiv free. You will be fine. I know you have a million questions and that is normal. Just find a support group and get your support system in place and with the right combo of meds you will be here to see your grandchildren. HIv is not a death sentence, it is chronic and manageable much like any other disease. In the mean time educate yourself, feel free to pm me or come to the boards here and you will find a wealth of info....i wish you the best and congrats on your baby.
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Thank you,i dont know the sex yet but just cant wait to hold it in my hands. I just pray i live long enough to be there for him or her. I guess being pregnant is one thing that made me to be brave after finding out. I have to be strong and think of this baby.
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Wow 15 years, you know when i found out the thing that scared me the most was not seeing my baby grow. But after what you saying i have hope that i will live to see my grandchildren. You really put a smile on my face,thank you very much.
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your welcome!!! Keep smiling sweety you will be okay. I know it is scary and you have alot of questions but just be your own advocate and research this disease. I wish you and your baby all the best and you will both be fine. Happy Mothers day!!!
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Take your medicine if you have to. Stay positive and you will be okay. Write down some questions to ask your doctors that may comfort you. Hang with encouraging and uplifting friends who will accept you regardless of the circumstances. You will be okay.
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if Truvada isnt one of your meds, ask for it... it is currently in front of the FDA as it has been scientifically proven to PREVENT HIV INFECTION....it has been 100% successful, in preventing babies of infected mothers of being infecting, as well as in studies in sero discordant couples studies...
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Sabs hang in there, I know how difficult it is to find out you are positive, I was lucky to find some really great support here when I found out my status in January of 2006. We have had some really great medical advances. One of my favorite people in the world is positive and had a beautiful healthy baby over 2 years ago. The meds are great these days, my doctor tells me all the time that HIV is not the leading cause of death of HIV+ folks. Focus on the future and remain positive about being a mother, as it sounds like you will be a great one. Yes, I believe you will see your grandchildren and be a part of their life.
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Hello ma'am! I'm a 20 year old male. I just found out I am positive as well. Found out my T count is 605. My viral load is 60,000. I am wondering myself if I should start on meds. I hope the best for you and your baby. Just stay happy, you're not alone. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here for ya!
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The fact that your wondering if you should start meds actually means you know your at that point. Taking the meds is a good thing and you"ll see you numbers change .
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Hey Sabs!
You and your partner are doing a great job dealing with this, and it will get better from here. The important thing is that you both know your status, have accepted it, and are now taking action to keep yourself well and improve your health. It is very scary, but you will find that once you start doing it and get through it, you will feel much better because you will know how and when to take action.
You are also so fortunate to have each other. After I found out about my infection, we discovered my then new girlfriend was also positive and had been for years, not knowing. It has galvanized our relationship and has made us so close to one another. I can't tell you how helpful it is to have someone along side helping you to remember to take your meds, cooking and eating well together, talking about the good days and rough days. Draw strength in being together and charge through!
As for disclosure, it's a very personal decision, so don't do anything you don't feel really comfortable with. My girlfriend and I have told no one, and that is what we feel comfortable with for now - that may change and we can disclose later if we feel it's important. Don't rush. Do what you need to do to feel good and feel strong.
Work closely with your doctors, and stay on top of your labs, and get your genotyping and sensitivity testing done - that is very valuable information for when you decide to start medication. It's much easier going in together and getting through it as a team. My girlfriend and I turn it into a fun morning now; we hold each other's hands through the blood draws, and then go have lunch at our favorite restaurant and just be grateful for the day and time we have together. It keeps us very focused on what's really important in life and helps keep us cheerful and positive. Our numbers have been coming back great, and I'm sure that yours will be too as you get your feet back under you. There may be some bumps in the road, but you have a great support system to get through them together. You also have your friends here at this forum and all the great information this website offers to help you and your partner stay strong and happy.
You're on the right track and doing great! Keep looking forward!
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