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Just tested positive for herpes...i wanna die
#260562 - 01/25/12 12:07 AM
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please help...i just tested positive for herpes...
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Well, I am not very familiar with herpes, but I think there are treatments for it nowadays. I'm sorry you have this issue, I'm sure it's really unpleasant. What does your doc say about it?
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Doc says its not the end of the world. I just feel like it is. Was in a relationship for over 12 years. How could this happen to me? Why? I never had outbreaks! Never cheated! Am almost 50 years old!!
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Doc says its not the end of the world. I just feel like it is. Was in a relationship for over 12 years. How could this happen to me? Why? I never had outbreaks! Never cheated! Am almost 50 years old!!
just because YOU may have been monogamous doesnt mean your mate was...herpes is transmittable even without outbreaks. let this be a learning experience, for the rest of your life. Instead of telling yourself its the end. Sounds like your pride has been hurt more than anything.... this too shall pass. Do as the Dr says, and continue living life to the fullest. Good Luck & God Bless..
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Well, what reading I have done says that people can have it for a long time and not have symptoms or signs, and that it can be spread even if you do not have open soars or any symptoms. It's possible you have had it and didn't know that you did because your body was able to deal with it. It could be the same for your mate.
I remember when I was about 15, my dad suddenly had a "cold soar", an outbreak of oral herpes, on his lip. In all the years I had known him, and all the years since, he never had such a thing. He had no idea what it was and was really upset when the doctor told him. I seriously doubt he had cheated on my mother. The doc said he had gotten it many years before and that it just didn't manifest until then. He's never had it since, so obviously his body is able to suppress the virus fairly effectively. Maybe it's the same for you?
The treatments they have now can help you through this outbreak, and then you could be back to normal for years again. It seems reasonable.
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I had HSV-2 which I got using protection...I got it in the pubic area and at first I cried alittle, but in 8 yeras since I was infected I had 1 outbreak every 2 years and it lasts 5 days when I tale Acyclovir as soon as start itching..you will learn to identofy when u will have outbreak and take the pills right away..it will take 4-5 days and u wil be fine. Some people get more outbreaks than others,
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My son was diagnosed with HIV in 2007. He refused to accept his status..and wouldnt take his meds..until he got an AIDS diagnosis after having a STAPH infection....I remember the night he was filled with intravenous tubes...and weighed next to nothing...he said..."MOmma..who will love me now?"..I told him...as only a mother could...that "relationships are hard despite any diagnosis...if someone loves you...he will no matter what...because the love your looking for is within you...not the acceptance of your illness.!! Here we are 5 years later...he is happy..healthy...taking his meds daily..and told me the same thing...all i could do was cry...he said i was having a pity party...and that i was entitled....for me to let go of the past..and embrace this new me...that doesnt include a man who cheats and then denies it. I love my son...i know he means well...but i guess I thought being in a monogamous relationship for 12 years...excluded me from ever getting an std. How could he be so stupid? I am angry...disappointed...and depressed...just tryna find some peace...
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I am searching the websites...not sure what an outbreak looks or feels like...doc said had i not taken a blood test..i might never have known...am starting to wish I hadnt...i know that sounds stupid...but i just wish i didnt know...in any event...she didnt give me any presciptions....should i get some...in case of?
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Herpes is just another type of viral infection, nothing to be scared about. Look at it as a cold sore thats just on a different part of your body. And if that ends up to be the worst problem you have as you walk through this thing called life , count your blessings hon . It's more common than you think.
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Your peace begins within yourself mom. You can be angry at what happened but you can't hold onto resentment or revenge. And as much as the word forgiveness makes you want to scream , the forgiveness is for YOUR own healing . It just means you release your grip around his throat . Yes it was wrong and you have a right to be mad. Forgive is not forget . It is for your healing. Your son is right, let go of the past and embrace the you that you are buried inside beneath the revengeful thoughts.S.T.D. stands for stupid things done. Done feed it with R.A.G.E. reasons about getting even . You'll only hurt yourself and it'll trickle onto your son who sounds very wise .
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Chances are, if you have not had any symptoms, that you may never have any symptoms - your body can deal with the virus and manage it effectively. As I said, my dad's outbreak of oral herpes was over 20 years ago - he never had another outbreak since, and had never had one before. It was in the summer, and it was unusually hot that year and he was working extra shifts because another engineer had quit. The combination of the two stressors probably gave the virus just enough oomph to leap out and say hi for a while.
Probably the best thing is to discuss with your doctor what you can do to when/if you ever do have an outbreak and understand what the symptoms are so you can immediately get on it and limit your discomfort. I think knowing that will help you have peace of mind. I know you are really upset right now, but try to be thankful that this is not likely to ever threaten your life, and may never even manifest into symptoms. Having the virus does not mean anything personal against your character. You are very lucky that your body seems to be managing it well. I pray that it stays that way for you.
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go to this site the people are great here
http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/messageforum/
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