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pdk111111
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newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info
      #260260 - 01/16/12 09:21 PM

We got married two months ago..we just found out he is positive and I am negative. We are both devastated. He is a "mach 3 with his hair on fire" go getter and is struggling with this. It's not dying that he is afraid of. He is afraid of infecting me and he's even more afraid of deteriorating and not being able to work and support his family. He is very prideful in that respect. He needs to hear from someone that is somewhat similar to him that he can live a long, productive life. He is 50 years old, caucasian, hetero, workhorse. We don't know his viral load or cd4 count yet. We have an appointment Feb 1 with an infectious disease specialist. Meanwhile, his mind is swimming with what ifs. Someone please help me put his mind at ease.

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260265 - 01/16/12 10:27 PM

Practice safe sex, and ya wont have to worry... i will even go as far as to say, many magentic couples are now having healthy baby's without infecting the baby or the negative partner. (with the help of a good HIV specialist)

It's very possible for him to remain active in the job world etc, as long as he does what he needs to in order to maintain his personal health. He will need to find a good ID specialist that will work with him. But only he himself, can decide what kind of quality & how much quantity, he wnts from his life.....nowadays, not many die from the disease, with the advancement of medications & treatment, they live plenty long enough to make other stupid decisions that will do us in. (not implying anything personal, i just dont sugar-coat stuff)

myself, im disabled. But thats because I didnt find out i was poz until the late stages of AIDS put me in a coma. in about another month I will celebrate 7 yrs of being past my "expiration date" they put on me. so, i can honestly say, ....If he wants to live, he will

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260268 - 01/16/12 10:49 PM

ha ha! I love the "live long enough to make other stupid decisions"....that sounds just like my man!

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260309 - 01/17/12 10:51 PM

I am so sorry to hear of your situation. I will share what I know:

If you practice safe sex, combined with him being on ARV/HAART medications that keep his viral load undetectable, you should be well covered. There are some recent studies in magnetic/polar couples that show that treatment IS prevention! That is very good news for you!

My advice is to get his virus genotyped and sensitivity tested to make sure you know what meds will work well for him. I'm on the Atripla cocktail (Truvada + Stocrin) and have had great results. Treatment is now recommended for people at all stages of the infection, as well as genotyping for people who are treatment naive. Here is a link to the latest DHHS Treatment Guidelines:

http://www.google.co.th/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=dhhs%20hiv%20treatment%20guidelines%202011&source=web&cd=2&ved=0CCYQFjAB&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.aidsinfo.nih.gov%2FContentFiles%2FAdultandAdolescentGL.pdf&ei=8kAWT4PkF8HRrQf6s8kz&usg=AFQjCNE-989E1FxTAFUMv6segtxIXXkruA&cad=rja

The ARV will protect you in two ways; he won't be actively shedding the virus, keeping you safer, and he will likely stay healthy and have a wonderful future with you. A win-win situation!

I hope you get through this well. Things will be ok - attitude and being proactive is the best way to fight this and keep your healthy and happy life together. Please contact me if I can be of any help.

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260312 - 01/17/12 10:56 PM

enough googling imfo links...... they arent always as honest & accurate as they appear, ....yeah not even the rich, gov. funded ones.

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260316 - 01/17/12 11:03 PM

Quote:

ha ha! I love the "live long enough to make other stupid decisions"....that sounds just like my man!




i think i can safely say it covers most of us men (and some women too),lol

just practice safe sex & get him to a specialist, and let them help him. His initial reactions to all this is quite normal, he will do as good as he allows himself to... you will also, so protect yourself!

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260319 - 01/17/12 11:06 PM

So it's bad to give her the link to the latest DHHS Treatment Guidelines so that she and her husband can be better informed?

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260324 - 01/17/12 11:51 PM

ok thai....let me exlain this to ya like this.....

governments hand out BIG MONEY to people who will say THE THINGS THE GOVERNMENT WANTS TOLD..regardless of the depth of its honesty or the casualties it leaves behind....

on more than just an issue like HIV the governments tend to manipulate the people into "buying into what they want them to think"....thus controlling the masses.

a good example, is like the CDC or even the NIH that you just hotlinked....WOULDNT EXIST without the governments money. and if they want those FUNDS they HAVE to operate on what the Government says, not necessarily the truth*

and to be bare-assed honest, when HIV/AIDS reared its ugly head on society long ago....the answers to everyone's (this includes governments,doctors,lawyers, scientists,etc) lie in those who were infected....that STILL stands true today.

i know ya want to help, but unless you actually know what you are talking about through your own experiences & research (<<this doesnt mean believing everything you can read) you really arent helping.

For years the governments ordered the CDC to say, kissing was a viable means of transmission....this wasnt true, it was a scare tactic in attempt to halt the natural human behavior of having sex... they figured if they could convince people you could get it from something as simple as a kiss... people would be fearful enough to not even be affectionate, let alone sexual.... science has proved much of that outdated imfo to be bullshit. Same goes for "abstinence only funding".... the ONLY requirement is to state: "abstinence only is the ONLY sure way of preventing HIV".... those who agree to state that (even knowing that its a lie) can get 100's of thousands, some cases Millions of dollars of gov. funds to operate/run their businesses on....

in short its not what its cracked up to be.... and you are only showing people that you arent cracked up to be what you portray either, by endorsing that kind of stuff...

stick to what YOU personally know about the topic at hand, instead of what Google is designed to feed your keywords.

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260325 - 01/17/12 11:58 PM

I guess you have it all figured out! I guess we don't need this forum any longer since we can't believe anything that anyone says and it's all a BIG conspiracy.

Since this is the same information that doctors use to treat their patients, I guess we can't trust the docs either. Great! We're all screwed! Maybe this ARV/HAART stuff is just candy and it's making me healthy by making me believe that it is. Since the science and data cannot be trusted, I guess we should all just go home now....

I'm glad we finally have some real answers!

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260327 - 01/18/12 01:00 AM

lol.... how did i know this reaction was coming....hmmmmm*

dont put words in my mouth...but since you are throwing the stones... let me ask, have you ever personally seen a person who's liver was burnt up at the hands of the treatment? or those who have disfiguring body changes due to them? Have you ever seen those who lost their life because they simply were to proud to get the help they needed? or have you ever seen someone like me put faith into the imfo that was "taught" only to end up fighting for their life, because that imfo wasnt accurate? i'm not the only one, nor have i ever claimed that. How would you feel if someone if someone died unnecassilary simply because you sent them to a site that misimformed them, would YOU take any responsibility for it yourself?

did you ever think with all the imfo that you quote, there's no need for sites like this because its already out there and people just dont accept it, what makes ya think they would now? most who come here have already been to those other sights and they come here to try & verify its validity

all im saying is there is a much bigger picture than you are painting here... just because ya paint a pretty picture doesnt make it genuine.

You remind me of medicinal mariguana opposers who claim all this bad stuff, yet have no proof to support their argumant. and those who have enough actually EVIDENCE to prove it has more benefits than they it does negative impact. it fallson deaf ears for the sake of their own personal gains

in closing, would you trust getting driving direction form someone who has never been to the city you are trying to find your way through????

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Re: newly diagnosed magnetic couple needs info new
      #260329 - 01/18/12 01:38 AM

The links I sent were from the from the DHHS, NIH, WHO and other well respected authorities in the field that advise doctors all over the world how to treat this disease. Many of these links can be and are found on this website as well, as well as articles that reference the sources I posted.

Over the years I have been with many people sick and dying of this and other diseases. You don't know me, and again are attacking over a warped opinion. I'm sorry my seroconversion did not fit your opinion as to when it was due. According to the NIH and other authorities, it is rare but not impossible for someone to fall outside the 3-month window.

Your driving analogy does not apply here. There was nothing wrong in me posting the link to the October, 2011 DHHS Treatment Guidelines and offering my support and best wishes. I would trust the DHHS over you any day.

Good day!

Edited by Pos_in_Thailand (01/18/12 01:43 AM)

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