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STILL unsure of diagnosis
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An update - or not....went to another place to be tested, rapid test POSITIVE, although line was faint - had blood drawn AGAIN to confirm (?) - results Monday. Hubby also got tested - he is NEGATIVE!!! Guy I had affair with has opted NOT to get tested - said he "doesn't want to know" - this after he lied to me and said he got tested. I am so frustrated!!!
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Hi Dj,
I am sorry you are going through such a difficult experience. I am sure this has been very frustrating.
My best thoughts are with you.
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when they tested you on the rapid test, didnt they do an elisa afterwards, if that is pos twice they do a western blot, all on the same vial of blood. i would wait for those test to come back before looking for a hiv specialist. sorry the guy turned out to be such an ass but sometimes people deal with fear very differently. I dont know what else to say except will keep you in my prayers. let us know how it turns out. love and peace
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i'm from rural upstate ny too... just thought i'd say hi
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dj1979
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They said the rapid test was basically the same as the ELISA. They drew blood and sent it for Western Blot, I believe. I'll have that result on Monday hopefully. Last ELISA was positive also, Western Blot indeterminate - retested at that first place, but results take 3 weeks and the woman there was pretty much clueless. I think the guy is finally going to go get tested, but I'm not counting on it. If he is negative, then I no longer need to worry that this illness was acute retroviral syndrome. (my hubby and this guy were the only partners I have had in 15 years) I'm hoping....but prepared for whatever they tell me. Thanks for being there.
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Hi - it really sucks being in rural upstate NY, because it seems everyone here is clueless about HIV/AIDS. People still think the two things are the same, even healthcare professionals don't seem to know much about it. The nurse practitioner at Planned Parenthood didn't even tell me that there were things that could cause false positives on the ELISA test - one of which is the Lyme antibody, which I already tested positive for, another of which is Epstein-Barr virus, which is what my hematologist thinks I had when I was sick last month. If you want to read what happened to me, read "Unsure of diagnosis" posted by anonymous - I hadn't registered yet. Maybe we could talk sometime. Hope your results continue to be negative. Hopefully mine will be...but I have doubts, of course.
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I am still crossing my fingers for you that you will end up being negative. I am still waiting for the time to take my own test and I live in ny too but not upstate.
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Hello DJ.. don't you ever lose hope.. We'll pray for you.
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I am in the same boat. Got my rapid HIV test 2 days ago. Will wait for Mar 23 to get my confirmation result. I am hoping I am false positive. For now, I am coping it one day at a time. I already let out a huge crying session last night with a counselor. So far, no one knows yet.
I am confused and anxious but I am not giving up.
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I know this won't help with all the confusion about the testing -- but re the guy you had the affair with -- maybe this will. I'm pretty sure about who I caught it from and he still insists he's been testing and negative. It took me a long time to accept that 1) I couldn't do anyting about him, 2) unless I was in the doctor office with him I had no way of knowing what the truth was and 3) that he was probably lying to me. It's been really hard but I have let it go.
Like I sai d- not really the core issue - but if it helps to just put worrying about that guy aside for the time being -m aybe that will give you a tad piece of mind in a stressful time.
hope that helps,
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I feel more sorry for her husband. Poor guy.
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Saying you feel sorry for her husband was totally uncalled for. She is suffering and you make a comment like that. SHe might be negative. They WERE seperated!!! Did you walk on water recently, rude one??? Get a life and quit hurting others, she does not deserve that from you or anyone else. We are here to support one another, not throw salt in the wound! JERK
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THANK YOU!!! I was about to reply to that rude person, then I read your posting. People think they can sit in judgement when they have no idea what the whole story is. In this case, hubby was an actively drinking alcoholic, on 3-4 day binges every week, physically and verbally abusive. Gee, why would I have an affair?
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That is one of the rudest, uninformed responses that I could ever imagine. How dare you sit in judgement of me when you have no idea what I have been through? Thank God that all of the rest of the people who post in this forum are caring, compassionate, human beings. You should not be allowed to post in this forum.
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Overlly defensive. No one is judging you or made any rude conmments about your affair.
There is nothing wrong in feeling sorry for her husband. He is also a part of the equation, and the poor guy is probably going through hell too.
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