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My brother is living with AIDS
      #602 - 03/30/00 08:16 PM

Could someone help w/some answers.....

My brother is living w/ Aids........but not handling his own
treatment very well. He skips medicines that his Drs. tell him to
take , he doesn't ask questions of his Drs. And can never answer
the questions I have about this disease he is supposed to be
Fighting!!!!!!! First of all, I understand that the higher your
viral load is, the worse it is.........but how high can your
viral load go? Also, he has terrible night sweats........what
could this be from? Is there anything he can do to ease these
terrible, drenching night sweats? Why do his Doctors not address
these sweats? Are they that common w/ this disease that they
don't diserve addressing?!!!!! How can i help my brother, who is
only 28 yrs. old, and way too young to not care about himself,
how can I help to change his attitude? Do I push myself on him
and put my nose into his life, ....he never wants to discuss
anything about the disease, his treatment, the way he feels, the
way he wants to be treated, the dreadful eventualities, like what
his wishes are if he should fall into a coma, what his wishes are
as far as funeral, burial, etc. not to mention he has no life
insurance policy......where am I ever going to get the money to
bury my brother!! We are all that each other has, and I want to
be involved. Please anyone who might have suggestions for me, it
would be greatly appreciated.

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Re: My brother is living with AIDS new
      #606 - 03/30/00 08:17 PM

Could someone help w/some answers-response

Perhaps you could find out where there is a support group in your
neighborhood and see if you could convince your brother to attend
meetings. Understand that it's hard enough to become an adult,
but to do so facing a difficult illness where discipline in terms
of taking medicine is the difference between living and perhaps
dying is really hard. Don't think about your brother's death. You
can help him live by helping him get support. Get him a timer or
beeper to help take the medicine. Tell him how much you care
about him. Ask him what you can do to help...I hope this helps?!?

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I understand feeling desperate new
      #609 - 03/30/00 08:18 PM

Could someone help with Answers -response

You sound desperate. I know exactly what you're going through. My
son was the same way about medicine and following doctors orders.
please write to me. I will try to talk you
through this. I care!!

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Re: My brother is living with AIDS new
      #616 - 03/30/00 08:21 PM

hello. First off I want to tell u that when i first read your article I thought you were my fiance talking about his brother. But his brother is living with his parents...but his brother is also 29 and living with aids. I feel the same way you do about my brother in law..except he doesnt know that i know. it is so hard to want to help someone that doesnt want to be helped. if you ever want to talk to me my email address is or I am on yahoo. But i would rather not give that address out on these boards. Well email me sometime. Maybe we can talk about our feelings....

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