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#211586 - 10/13/06 03:10 PM
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Is it possible to relax in the bedroom? If you're in a long term mixed status relationship is there a point where you ever quit worrying about getting it? Help please
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If there ever comes a time when you quit worrying about getting HIV, get out.
You will get to a point that everything becomes second nature, but the HIV thing will always be there.
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Namu-Myoho-Renge-Kyo
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I was involved in a relationship where I sincerely thought I was positive and refused to get tested. I knew my partner was positive but I never took the time to get tested because I did not want to sustantiate the obvious fear and desolation. Then one day I got the courage to get the test. By that time I had been thrown out of the house by the positive partner . My test came back negative and my partner has been bent on a revenge mission ever since then.
It's only when I found out almost a decade later that I swore never to date any woman until we both take a hiv test just for the peace of mind . But while I thought I too was positive, I never cared about infection. I now view every partner as a potential source of Hiv infection. I therefore take precautions way ahead of time.
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Well, I think it depeds on lot of things and we're all different as our relationships are (though they share hiv as an aspect of them).
My experience taught me there were a lot of irrational worries (and some rational ones) and that those worries (the irrational) are the ones to be worried about... they do not let you enjoy what you're living no matter how beautiful you may think it is... if you do.
Anyway, if something has been learned through many years (and resources) studying hiv infection is that it can be prevented and that there are effective ways to do that.
My bf is hiv+... We've been together for 3 years and being sexually active for almost 3 years... we put into practice the, in my opinion, really effective prevention measure condoms are to reduce risks to the maximum possible and i'm still negative... (getting tested everty 5-6 moths)
It has a lot to do with knowing that the risk is going be always there and that your relationship is going to be particular... always, but that risks can be taken really low (prevented). It depends on how can you feel knowing this... try to make something out of it...
The good news are you know one of you is hiv+ so you can prevent the other one to become infected. If you're not feeling alright by doing some things while being intimate, or by being intimate at all... I think you should try to communicate with your partner... if you're feeling uncomfortable, try to work it out, talking or by other ways... think if you want to put yourself in something that's uncomfortable for you -and difficult to the other person, even if they hadn't noticed- (i know it sounds easy when said but difficult to put into action)...
Everyone has their own times... some people never stop worrying, some may... In my case, this worry has been being placed somewhere in which it cannot bother or make me panic. And I made a choice on taking the risk, making it really low, but knowing it is there... reponsibly. And we enjoy ourselves and i can say we are relaxed.
Actually, i think my choice was nothing but the result of many things in the particullarities of the situation my partner and i have been in.
But every situation is different, every person is different, every relationship is different... I cannot guarantee you you'll stop feeling worried... but I think the possibility is (or can) there.
It's just one opinion... hope it can be of any use to you.
Anyway... if you ever need someone to talk to... librecuandoxesoselucha@hotmail.com
LIBERTAD
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I'm in a mix status relationship... Im poz hes not.... I fear for him all the time..Im not sure why hes even with me... but we're carefull and I'd never have it any other way.
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take care and be sooooo safe love,
Brandy
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[quote]Is it possible to relax in the bedroom? If you're in a long term mixed status relationship is there a point where you ever quit worrying about getting it? Help please [/quote]
Yes, you trust that your partner wont infect you. You have to have full trust in your partner or relationship is pointless. I am new to this whold partner has aids deal but I still feel really safe.
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if we are not truly ourselves then how do we live. -- Jarett Jenkins
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