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Sero-discordant couple - counselor??
      #161346 - 10/07/05 04:31 PM

Is there such a thing as a serodiscordant counselor? My husband is hiv positive and I am negative. We found out after we were married and no matter, what I read, who I talk to doctor's, hospital's etc, I can not seem to be able to have protected sex. I am too scared, nervous, worried to enjoy it even with condoms. I am an easy going person, not anal and fun to be with, but this has really thrown a loop on my life and my husband's. We have children too. I just do not ever want to get the virus and I know I could get hit by a bus tomorrow, but I still just do not want to take whatever small chance it would be. I mean, I have tried and I am just too nervous, uncomfortable to enjoy it. So, what is the point? Sex should not be fearful..... He has had it for over two years, we had a newborn, so that distracted me and him the first couple of years, with no energy, but not now. Do I get a divorce so he can find someone who can have sex?We are young in our thirties. Please don't say read more about the facts, I have and it still does not help. Is there a counselor to deal with this?



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Re: Sero-discordant couple - counselor?? new
      #161350 - 10/07/05 05:10 PM

Alot of times there are social workers who work in the hiv department of your hospital. Does your husband see a specialist? Ask them if they can refer you? Or call your local aids organization to ask them about counseling. I know its hard. my husband is negative and I am postiive.

Try the doctor route. ask him if he knows of anyone. (espcially if he is a specialist in ID, they usually always have resources for positive people). but what may help MOST may be to talk to other pos/neg couples. i know its hard on the internet, when you can't "physically" talk to them. Where are you from ?

love and prayers,
debbie

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Re: Sero-discordant couple - counselor?? new
      #161428 - 10/09/05 08:02 AM

Hi I am in the same boat as you. My bf is + and I am -. We found out in May and ever since then our sex life sucks.It took a few months to finally try it again and when we did I just could not do it. We have tried a few times but I am so afraid.I have nobody to talk to about this the few people I told that he has Aids have been like don't do anything with him.But I love him and I want to make love again but it is so scary.we are not alone there are others in the same situation. Good luck

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Re: Sero-discordant couple - counselor?? new
      #161435 - 10/09/05 12:29 PM

Oh gosh, you are in the same situation as me.. My husband is seeing a doctor outside of the hospital setting so this doctor has no resources for us... I have called the local aids organization and they have nothing there either. Whether it be from fund cutting or no one will come forth in our situation. I really do not know how to feel better about the situation. It is invisible (the disease) so it is hard to not be afraid of something you can not see or touch etc.. Just others tellng you what is okay and what is not.....

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Re: Sero-discordant couple - counselor?? new
      #163764 - 11/09/05 07:42 PM

From a study "SAN FRANCISCO--(BW HealthWire)--Aug. 25, 1997" - From 1985 to 1995, Padian and her research colleagues enrolled 82 HIV-infected women and their male partners and 360 HIV-infected men and their female partners into a study to examine rates of and risk factors for heterosexual transmission of HIV. Study participants were interviewed and given physicals at the start of the study and every six months. The couples were also counseled during each visit about safe sexual practices, and study staff were available at any time by phone. No new HIV transmissions occurred during the course of the study!!!

Guys this is a 10 YEAR study, and the study isn't even sure the folks were always using condoms, and it was in 1997 before great meds were keeping virus levels low (making transmission even l=more difficult), etc. The risk is extremely minimal if you just be extremely safe.

From experience, I can tell you it really will be easier to rationalize with time.

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