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What else can I do?
#158113 - 08/03/05 08:55 PM
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Hello Everyone
I need some help/suggestions. A woman I've know for the past 10 years is preparing herself for a battle. She was diagnosed HIV+/ HepC in 1986. We meet and dated for a couple of years, now were just very close friends. We're actually more than friends. I have always let her know that no matter what our situation is, she could and can always count me for anything. She still hasn't told her father or son about her medical problems. I've tried and tried to help her eliminate some of the stress in her life, but she always seems to do the opposite. In the next couple of months she'll have a liver biopsy and will probably start the interferon treatment for the HepC. I personally don't think she is strong enough to handle the treatment, but it's not up to me. Her doctors wanted to do the biopsy last year but for whatever reason she didn't. I know she's terrified. I really don't know what else I can do. Any and all suggestions would be helpfull.
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I know this is hard, to see someone you love so much and would do anything to take away any pain, but as much as you can't....the best you can do is be by her side and let her open the door to how she is feeling about things.
Do you go with her to the doctors, or do you guys talk about it. Becuase maybe it could be more helpful (if she is ok w/ it) to go with her, and to help her make difficult decisions such as this.
there was only one woman who was a patient at the clinic that I work at.....over the last few years, we became so close. We had so much in common and would talk for hours (I would literally drop all my work and sit in exam room w/ her during her visits). She was also HIV & HEPC +, and I think for a little while she did the interfuron (or pega...something), but couldn't handle it on top of her hiv meds. and she eventually stopped. but she kept in monitored, and did what she could to keep healthy dispite that. She had many other major medical problems as well though.
Is she seeing a specialist for the hep c (not just the hiv specialist...a GI specialist) they can advise her better why or when she needs to start, and the pro's and con's of taking them, or going off of them.
Its a very thing that you are going thru with her. here are words that I found you wrote to someone else in an old post........
I want to tell you that even if your friend/partner doesn't show it, you being there is everything
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That is YOU!! you being there is everything.
love and prayers, to you and your friend
Debbie
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Like debtex said, sometimes just being there is the best anyone can do. The other thing you could do is do some research on interferon, so you and your friend can enter the situation as well informed as possible therefore make better decisions. Much love to you both and good luck
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hi,
She must marry to some one who have hiv+ or Anti HCV. in this way she will trust on him and both will takecare of themself.
Ilyas
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This post had nothing to do with "WHO" she should marry. It had to do with a friend who was concerned about the best way to help someone he really loved.
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I did a few years ago, but in the last few years she either goes by herself or she goes with a friend of ours. She's a nurse and, I think maybe should ask more pertinent questons. Which is why I never objected. Unfortunatly, Christine is a very blunt person. I think that her years as a nurse and having seen so much of the darker side of life has made her almost unfeeling. She had made Patti feel scared and nervous about her upcoming liver biopsy. It's got to the point where Patti and I haven't talked seriously about this for most of the summer. I almost feel like I'm intuding on her personal life. she gets upset when I mention that she's been very quiet. Patti has NEVER been afraid to voice her opinion. Now I really don't know what to say or do anymore.
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