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My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me
      #100294 - 06/23/04 03:19 PM

Im 26 years old, and I just found out yesterday that my boyfriend of one year is HIV+. He has known for 10 years, and he never told me. I am in a state of shock. This man has treated me like a princess since the day we met. I know his family, he knows mine...we are extremely close, or so I thought.

I am angry at him for not telling me, but i am also devestated because i love him more than anything and I dont want him to be sick. I dont know what to do. I have been crying since yesterday, I have nobody to turn to for help. I would love to just hear from one person. Please.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #100303 - 06/23/04 06:54 PM

I am in a similar situation. I have not had a girfreind since my diagnosis 4 years ago. What I ask is that is this something that I can overcome and a girlfreind will deal with?

I don't think so. I do not lie, especially like this but nice looking girls want to go out with me all the time. They think that I am successful.

I think that this news will ruin that.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #100351 - 06/24/04 08:04 PM

yes, this is something a girlfriend can deal with. i wish my boyfriend had trusted me enough to tell me before we started sleeping together. i love him more than i can say and if he had been honest we would have delt with this together. as it is now, im more hurt by him lying and taking my choice away than i would have been by just knowing the truth.

You will find someone.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #100483 - 06/28/04 01:06 PM

Was he considerate enough to always use a condom when you had sex? Have you been tested? I would worry about myself before worrying whether he will get sick.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #100512 - 06/28/04 07:52 PM

yes we always used condoms...for everything, we didnt have any type of sex without one.
yes i have also been tested, and im negative...for now, i will have to get tested again in three months. im not very worried though, like i said...we never did ANYTHING without a condom on.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #100547 - 06/29/04 02:30 PM

i am searching for new friends i am HIV negative but i would love to hear from you I am 18 My name is Keia contact me
monday-friday after 7 p.m and any time saturday and sunday i live in maryland but it doesnt matter what state you live in we can be phone pals call me (443) 798-8028

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #100937 - 07/08/04 03:37 AM

Give the guy a break! I was diagnosed 4 years ago and have not told a single soul apart from my cousin. The poor guy loves you but he just didn't know how you would handle the news. I know my biggest problem with telling my partners is not knowing whether they will, in a state of shock, run and confide in someone and then that someone will want to share the news with smeone else. I always think that if I tell someone the whole world will end up knowing and THAT WILL kill me faster than the virus itself. He really is just scared and I'm sure he's been agonising about telling you. He probably wanted to be sure that he could trust you 100% ('cos that's the level of trust that is required in a case like this) before he could tell you. He's not a perfect human being and I think if you love him, you should not let this come between you.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #101035 - 07/09/04 01:01 PM

I know he was agonizing over telling me, but you and him arent the same in the fact that EVERYONE knows he is HIV+, his family...his friends...they all know, its not a secret. He is a hemophiliac and he got it from a blood transfusion in the early 80's. They never talk about it though, not because they are ashamed but because they have known for so long that its not an everyday topic of conversation. And believe me I know that he wanted to be able to trust me 100%, but he never gave me the chance to prove that he could.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #107693 - 08/08/04 10:22 AM

My brother dated a girl for almost 1 year before she told him she had HIV. My brother is now dead. He died last year at the age of 31. This woman took his life. She had no right. My parents had to watch their only son die, he was my only sibling. It angers me to hear about your story. Your boyfriend is putting your life in danger.

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Re: My boyfriend knew and didnt tell me new
      #107694 - 08/08/04 10:26 AM

My brother contracted the HIV virus from his girlfriend. She knew she had it but kept it a secret from him. My brother is now dead. She took his life. ALWAYS tell the truth.
My brother moved on after his diagnosis, he had a fiancee, and she knew from the start he had AIDS. They were going to adopt a baby together, but he became ill, 6 months after the baby's birth, my brother died.
Yes people will accept you, if you care, you tell them up front

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