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Newly Diagnosed w/ HIV- Partner
#96195 - 04/21/04 09:54 PM
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I was diagnosed HIV+ on March 29th. As shocked as I was, I have been handling everything pretty good. My main concern has been getting on the right path, finding the right doctor, getting all the initial tests done, so I know where this is headed. I know for almost certain that this happened almost 2 years ago, the more I've thought about it. The biggest issues has arisen with my boyfriend who tested negative. It has brought up many issues that already existed but now is the time to really consider if it's worth continuing. I'm heart broken at the idea of my relationship ending and a part of that is facing the world as a single HIV+ gay man. That scares me. There's a lot that I can deal with but I think it's those uncertainties and fear of rejection that scare me that most. Resources? Ideas?
Thanks.
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First of all, know that you are not alone! You can post your email address here (make up another one at yahoo) and you'll be surprised at the support you'll get! No sense going through this alone. You can also join a support group at your local AIDS organization. There's a lot of great basic stuff on this site at http://www.thebody.com/learning.html
Just realize it will take 6 months to a year or longer to adjust to having HIV...it's a dramatic change in your life. Give yourself time. But see it as just another challenge in your life...and be strong and find resources of support (really the most crucial thing!) whether through email buddies, or live support groups, whatever!
Good luck!
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HI there! There is no need to kill yourself. The best thing that you can do now is to tell your story, so that others will learn from it and hopefully will not make same mistakes. Keep your head high!
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Your partner may not EVER reject you. And if so, at least
see what happens for now! Don't try to future trip, it will
destroy you. Don't do a pre-emptive strike in fear of rejection.
You may be robbing yourself of a wonderful relationship. I know many people who HAVE stayed with an HIV+ person, including myself w/fiance (he was poz, I stayed), an ex-b/f and current who accepted my illness and didn't run. And good going for getting medical attention right away! That is crucial. Good luck!
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Good for you for getting medical attention right away.! No doubt that is what put me into long term survivor category. I am going through a probably breakup right now, I am very scared and concerned about future with no "significant other", especially since my social circle/support system has
dwindled in the last year. I go to bed every night and wonder if I will be "alone" the rest of my life. I can handle it some nights, but nights when depressed, afraid, ill, and noone to hold me, I wish I could give you advice...but want to tell you at least you are not alone in your worries. But go with your emotions...if you need to reach out, if via Internet, do that. Cry if you need to. Pray if you believe. I am going to go back into HIV personals to meet new friends, maybe that would benefit you. Good luck....
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