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Just diagnosed
      #86971 - 02/12/04 01:06 AM

I am 18 and was just told that I have HIV. I mean I went to get tested for stds and also HIV and they said I have HIV and herpes. I am so broken. How can I go on? Will I ever have a friend? I came here to see what people do with these disease. I live at home and cannot tell my parents. They already think I'm no good. I didn't do anyting yet. Just got teh results....should I do something?

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Re: Just diagnosed new
      #86974 - 02/12/04 05:13 AM

You will have friends. You will live. It's just that you might have to alter your life plan somewhat.

HIV is an unfortunate disease to catch, but you are lucky that we are in a time where people are living healthy lives, but you must be pro-active.

The first thing you should do is visit this wonderful forum.
It is called.

There is a Living with HIV section that has amazing people that can help you in all parts of your journey and tell you the next steps you should take. Go there. Don't be afraid. Tell your story and get help. You will find friends there. And learn you are not alone.

Also call the CDC they will help you with information about the disease and where you can get help for free.

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Re: Just diagnosed new
      #86978 - 02/12/04 06:53 AM

This board is also a good place! Not only! I've met lots of super people here who have been with me for a long time now!
Anyway, find a good HIV specialist. Call the largest AIDS organization in your area and see if they can refer you to someone.

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Re: Just diagnosed new
      #86979 - 02/12/04 06:55 AM

I am sorry for the pain you are experiencing. I know what you are going though, and so do the majority of everyone else on here.

HIV is not picnic to have, but it is certainly not the end of the world-- TRUST ME. You need to get educated about the virus. It's in your body- you need to know how to keep others from catching it (Condoms will be your best friend), and you also need to know how to keep yourself from getting sick. If you haven't done so, get yourself a good HIV specialist. Find out where your counts are at. Get plenty of rest, eat well, drink plenty of water, exercise, and most importantly, surround yourself with loving, supportive, kind people who love you.

We're here for you. Take care.

Married; 31 years old
HIV+ 10 years... and counting

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Re: Just diagnosed new
      #87606 - 02/14/04 10:25 PM

I can't believe how fortunate you are to have found out so early in the infection.
I want to assure you that your life is not anywhere near over. You are just beginning a quest that will take you on a trip that none of us asked for, but many of us have traveled and are currently traveling. I was diagnosed in late 1983 and have been living positive since then.
Since that time I have quit a wonderful carreer in the Silicon Valley of Northern California to drive a Semi-truck cross country. Had a business of Apartment rentals in New Mexico and I can't tell you how many times I have stirred the HIV/AIDS activist POT. I pride myself on knowing just about as much about my disease as my Doctor, whom I have a huge amount of respect for.
At any rate I have been released from the hospital and taken home to die twice, but thanks to Laughter, Diet, Knowledge, Persistence, and a great deal of sweat, I am still here and on the 19th of January celebrated my 57th birthday.
My advise to you is take one day at a time, find out where you can get some face to face support in your neighborhood, and step out and do what you must do to survive. Yes this is your fight now, but there are thousands of us out here that are ready, willing, and able to help you along.
Never give up until God lets you take your last breath. You are young, and have many years left to do just about anything you set your mind to.
Oh yes, the parent thing. Thank your parents for giving you life, and there ends your obligation to them. My father, who just passed last year was condemning of me and my lifestyle right up to the end. His occupation, Missionary, and Minister!
If you are strong enough to go get tested, you are strong enough to deal with this!!!!!!!
Please keep everyone posted, as to your progress, anxieties, and whatever else you feel that you want to share.

With Love and Compassion:

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Re: Just diagnosed new
      #87790 - 02/15/04 11:10 AM

You don't have to tell anyone yet. Just calm down. Join a support group if you can. It will help you feel less alone. Lots of AIDS organizations have support groups for people newly diagnosed.
Or leave your email address in this forum and you will find supportive people from all over the world! The thing is not be alone. You have to do whatever you can to feel supported. Soon if you get this support you will regain your balance and be able to tell your parents if you think they will be helpful. Most likely you will not have take medications if you've just been infected. JUST remember that you are NOT alone!

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Re: Just diagnosed new
      #87806 - 02/15/04 08:28 PM

You are going to be fine.
I was just diagnosed in June of '03 and I am 38.
From people I have spoken with and my doctors, I have been inforned that because of my age and my positive response from my meds. I have gone from about 300,000 viral load and 250 cd4 cells to undetectable and 382 cd4's.
I was told part of this comes from my age, so being that you found out so soon, you only need to take the first step and find out what you need to do.
Also there are plenty of people out there who would be proud to be your friend, as I am sure you have also witnessed from the responses to your post.
You are not alone.
And as for your parents, if they truly think you are "No good" it is their loss. You need to worry about yourself and find those people who think you are good, because I am sure you are GOOD. Just hang in there and get the help you need.


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