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want to be loved like a person with out HIV
#215037 - 11/20/06 01:37 AM
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I have been HIV since 2004 and for the first time since I had to tell someone I was positive..I got turned down...the worst part is ..he could have been the man of my dreams...I am a strong woman with a great heart...and I just want someone to touch me like I am precious
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i understand that pain sweety. I try to look at it as he ian't strong enough to be with me, he isnt man enough to be with me. HIV is a factor but does not define me. Someone who is strong enough and will love me reguardless will be the right man. Any other that can't be that just isnt right. Try to look at it the same way because it really is true. Love and compassion reach higher than a virus.
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taurusthecat
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If he blew you off purely because of your status and left you feeling so horrible, then he isn't the man of your dreams, end of story. The man of your dreams will be understanding and love you for who you are, including any health issues you have in your life. You must be feeling terrible, but don't let it put you off disclosing in the future. Try to bring it up early on in the picture rather than later on, and think of it like some sort of automatic sorting system, because only those people who understand and hang around after you tell them will be right for you. Your health status will not change, so you have to be honest and upfront with those you meet and want more from because you will always need those in your life to know about your hiv, it's a part of you and your life after all. You'll find that special someone, you just need to be patient and believe they will come along. Anyone who drops you because of your status is a loser, and it's their loss.
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I'm like fake fruit...... I don't bruise that easy.
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i understand what your saying because i myself am feeling the same way,its been a whils since my wife and myself had a good romp or even a fast one for that matter.i think it takes time in my situation.but,with being single and trying to find someone i cant relate to because ive been married for 13 lucky years,so mabey your pain in similar.being single and looking for someone who will truly love and appreaciate you for what you have to offer in terms of commitment and returning love and respect is vital to a good relationship.and if the man you tink was the man of your dreams sorry it didnt work out the way you had hoped,but on the other side of the coin,would you really want to be with this person whos only obviously for himself and not you no matter the problems you may have?
mabey your idea of a man of your drems needs to change because of your diagnosis,because you will go through many dates to find the man who is truely looking for the love you can give without judging you on your health records,just by the love you give in return for the same.im not by any way saying to lower your standards,but i am stating you may be up for many nights feeling down if you invest your heart into someone whos not really in for the long haul.dont blame yourself either because its the fault of the uninformed not you.i wish you lots of luck in your search for your mate in life,and hope i may have helped you in your mind to ease any thoughts you may have that its all your fault,or feeling like its not worth the time and effort,because it may take time but when you find the right one you will know it.take care
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Sweetie you are precious and special..DO NOT ever let anyome make you feel any different. HE is out there. Have you tried the + internet dating sites??? Let us know how everything goes...
We love you here,
Sf
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nazek
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i pray that you would find that someone for you because its hard but it will get better for you
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thank you ....and I hope your right about it getting better...
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thank you ...I have tried those sites and I always end up getting responses from frauds looking for money...
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thank you thank you thank you....you make me feel a lot better
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your so right...,it makes perfect sense,,,,,its just so hard to through all your info out there from the get go...when its something you only tell your closest friends...thank you
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your so right...your words make you sound like a much stronger person than I am ...unfortunatly I am a people pleaser and I always get "unpleased" in the process...
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hey there~
stay strong, take your time with people and disclose when you're ready. also make sure you have you support people around who love you no matter what and will be there for you.
the more we can talk about this virus, the more we can begin to end the shame and stigma and start educating everyone that this is just another life situation, not a scary threat. that's when we'll be loved regardless of our HIV status.
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