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Just told son I am HIV+... what now????
      #190734 - 05/11/06 02:15 AM

I am 28, have been HIV+ for 9 years, since my son was 1. About 4 days ago, he came home from the neighbors unexpectedly to find me reading a book on Women and their perspectives of HIV. He flat out asked me if I had HIV... and although I cringed, I always told myself that when the day came that he asked, IF he asked, I would never lie. And I didn't. Being that he is only 10, his information is limited, and I have tried to inform him on an age appropriate level... but he seems to be stonewalling. He doesn't want details, doesn't want to know. I am concerned that this is going to consume his thoughts and without asking questions, he will be living in fear that I am surely dying.. Anyone else been through this who might have suggestions?

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      #190750 - 05/11/06 03:33 AM

I would talk to him one more time and tell him that "when your ready, you can ask as many questions you want about HIV." When you put it to him that way, he can ask when he is ready. I would discontinue hiding your meds etc from his eyes and maybe a bit more out about it now in subtle ways.... 10 is old enough. He is ready.... You will feel the load come of in due time!


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      #190785 - 05/11/06 11:46 AM

I really can not comment on this since neither my 11 or 8 year old know yet, but I do want to say congrats.

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