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SELF-ESTEEM
      #172879 - 02/01/06 11:39 PM

So whats it like for those who have it?
So whats it like for those searching for it?

Just Curious

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172883 - 02/02/06 12:04 AM

Very good questions Eric... and I think I"m one who is searching. Those around me think I have great self esteem. I'm successful, have a good career, seem to have a great life. But I've always been a very private person and little do they know the struggles I've been through. On the outside I've always looked like I've had it together while on the inside I may have been falling apart. And I think a lot of my searching has centered of fulfilled relationships.

Maybe I'm rambling now. But I would definately be interested in the thoughts of others on this topic.

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172910 - 02/02/06 07:59 AM

Well, self esteem was a no no in my life. With all the wonderful (sarcasim) relationships I had that were full of men telling me I was no good and so on. I do not know if I can tell you what it is like. As for looking for it. When I met my husband well he likes to be a big self esteem booster. I think I realized though I am just going to stop looking for it because I am way past looking for anything anymore. I think things just come to me, it may take time but they come. When that day comes, I will be a happier person. Until that day comes, I will live my life in happiness with my family.

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172962 - 02/02/06 10:51 AM

don't know what it is.....
don't know if i'd know it when i see it either....

i think every relationship has taken another piece of my heart. physically abused, mentally abused, verbally abused my whole life.......

so if anyone finds it, please let me know.......

daisey

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172965 - 02/02/06 11:04 AM

Money does not do it.
Fame does not do it.
A great job does not do it.
Supressed virus does not do it.
Life expectancy does not do it.


Love is the answer..

I come here because you love me. You keep loving me until I can learn again to love myself..

Thats my take on Self-esteem..

Love

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172983 - 02/02/06 12:15 PM

Yes, I agree...love is the answer...love yourself....love one another. I know when mine was at an all time low, I searched for that love....always in the wrong place. Usually in the bed of some hot guy that didn't give two shits about me...and then I ended up feeling worse about myself. Dug that hole a little deeper. My husband loves me...unconditionally....and is helping me to learn to love myself.....but that is the hard part. Some days I just don't want to be around me.

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172984 - 02/02/06 12:17 PM

Well said Eric... and I think that fits with what we have all said in terms of what has led to not having self esteem

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172986 - 02/02/06 12:26 PM

Well, I love all of you.

YOUR SELF ESTEEM BETTER BE OOZING OUT OF EVERY POUR IN YOUR BODY!!

Group ((((Hug))))

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #172999 - 02/02/06 01:41 PM

words don't always help to stop feeling this way. they are only words..

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #173014 - 02/02/06 02:48 PM

Antibody.

I am afraid thats all we have in this invironment. Maybe try and take these words with you.. Test them, try them on. see if they fit. If they dont come back and exchange them for another set of words until you find ones that fit.

Love (I know these are only words)

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #173051 - 02/02/06 06:15 PM

Eric and others.... I realize that being loved or a feeling of being loved can have a significant impact on self esteem. Maybe it is the perception of being loved... But, sometimes we can still have a lack of self esteem and yet we know there are people who love us. Your posts on here Eric show that you are intensely loved by William and by your family. I've always known I was loved my my family. So is it a particular kind of love?

Maybe that mucks things up and maybe it has no relevance at all... but just thought I'd toss that out into this mix.

David

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #173073 - 02/02/06 08:09 PM

Co. I just got to read your beautiful post. Sounds like my 4th step which I probably need to do again. I shared it with my sponsor and God and that brought my esteem from the pits. Its time to do one again I guess. Just a different focal point this time.

Am I weird if I put my lips on the mirror and kiss myself? Not that I dont get kisses.. But I was wondering if that could help? Dont be offended, its just me thinking out loud. I have to be quiet in the morning otherwise I will wake up William.

Thanks Co...

I got it a few times today..

Love

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #173075 - 02/02/06 08:12 PM

David.. Im going to wackya. You self proclaimed lover of life who gives so much to this site. Bless you my son. If I had one. I just wana squeeze you till your stuffings come out. As well as your self-esteem!

Love

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Re: SELF-ESTEEM new
      #173231 - 02/03/06 03:20 PM

my gosh....you inspire me! all of you, for that matter!
i am hiv neg, but i seem to enjoy your chat so much. i too, am dealing with esteem issues. i have started reading 'you can heal your life' by louise hay. this book has the same approach you have to life.
i really would like to meet you aids2hiv, but unfortunately i am on the other side of the universe, south africa to be exact. my close friend is hiv pos and we speak openly about this dis-ease. i have been telling her about your lovely souls, i hope she will be communicating with you soon. good going guys!

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