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Year-End Resolution
      #168038 - 12/28/05 02:12 PM

Dear all,

I have been around and about in the world, not forgetting about those few of you I had a chance to know in the past through this site.
For those who don't know me, I have been diagnosed In May 2004 - vl 12,000 / cd 430 - last in Oct 05 - vl 18,000 / cd 600. No drugs yet.
When I came to this site the first time I was looking for an opportunity to talk and share my experience, but oddly enough my reaction and adjustment to the "news" has been so fast, so natural and so positive (interesting the sound of this word), that I deal with my status as another attribute of that may define me but not label me or identify me.
Everytime I came back to this site, I feel pain, the desperation of many - oddly those who are not diagnosed and/or most likely are not even positive are even the most "lost".
In the past, when I have expressed some encouraging and supportive thoughts to help my way, I have allowed the venting of anger and oppositions of some who have lost hope.
To all of you, I want to dedicate this inspiring New Year Resolution list, hoping you may find comfort and inspiration to live your exceptional lives in the exceptional ways they were supposed to be - and with your poz status are EVEN MORE so...

We are here in this world to GAIN:
CHARACTER as we lose EGO
INTEGRITY as we lose DISHONESTY
STRENGTH as we lose FEAR
COMPASSION as we lose DISAPPOINTMENT
DISCIPLINE as we lose WILLFULNESS
EQUALITY as we lose SEPARATION
APPRECIATION as we lose RESENTMENT
ENTHUSIASM as we lose HOSTILITY
TENDERNESS as we lose RIGIDITY
BOLDNESS as we lose BITTERNESS
GENEROSITY as we lose SELFISHNESS
OPTIMISM as we lose INADEQUACY
EXCITMENT as we lose EMBARRASSMENT
GRATITUDE as we lose GREED
LOVE as we lose IGNORANCE

Before I continue, I want to acknowledge the above as a quote from Iyanla Vanzant's book: "UNTIL TODAY - daily devotions for spiritual growth and peace of mind".
I strongly reccommend it as the daily meditations are quite inspiring and work amazingly well to motivate and focus oneself on what really counts in our lives.

On a final note, I want to remind myself and anyone out there who is ready to listen that GRATITUDE is the key for anyone to finally free ourselves from the pain of this experience.

Be Grateful for what you have, no matter how small, painful at first or insignificant to your eyes.

Express your gratitude at any opportunity - your smile, your kind word, your touch, your laugh... all is for you to give in order to receive back exponetially!

Be grateful to yourself for coming so far, and in the last few days of this year focus on all the wonderful things you always wanted, feel that status of accomplishment and gratitude (to god, your parents, your cat... whoever!) and hold tight... that feeling will take you to a fanstastic new beginning!

All the best to you all and be kind to yourself!
:)
Myhighergrounds@hotmail.com

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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #168113 - 12/29/05 11:20 AM

Thank You for that beautiful script. Your words hold so much meaning. I understand them, wish to apply them, and be greatful... Greatful that we have found eachother. I agree there are those who are living out their lives until a complete meltdown occures or death. I am very happy to have found you, this place where we can be ourselves, learn, and see how life keeps on going.. I hope to beocme as at peace as you seem to be..

Have a Peaceful 2006

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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #168117 - 12/29/05 12:02 PM

i am grateful to find this site for sure! Greatful to have been able to find this thread too! Cheers and Happy New Beginning 2006

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-ve at 1, 2,3,7 mnths..Free of HIV and OCD now.THANKS to all the BEAUTIFULfriends at TheBody!

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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #168173 - 12/30/05 03:00 AM

Thank you, that is very kind of you!
I don't know if it helps, but do feel free to write more at myhighergrounds@hotmail.com... I will be happy to hear your story and learn about another beautiful individual in this world!
Be the change of what you want to change around you... and be always kind to yourself!
:)
Cheers,
M.

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ScotCharles
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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #168190 - 12/30/05 10:00 AM

Thanks for your post.

I constantly struggle with systems that tell us to be grateful for what we have for many reasons. First, I agree with Marx that all religions work to assure a docile working class that believe their reward is in heaven, the meek shall inherit the earth, the last shall be first, blessed are the poor, and the servant shall be master to all. Second, the Mass is sometimes like a dose of Valium...Take eat, don't worry, all will be well in the sweet by and by; take drink, believe me that I love you. Third, systems of acceptance can blind us to the injustice and cruelty in the world as we sit dumbfaced like Pangloss, believing this is the best of all possible worlds. Lastly, I have need of doubt; I find doubt enlivens my internal dialogue.

That said, I am both repulsed and charmed by those who have the True Faith; they seem to me to be both fool and saint, slave and transcendant, innocent victim and hero.

At times though I see through the mist of illusion and glimpse the terrifying, yawning chasm of eternity illuminated by the Prime Mover. Descartes says that only an imprudent man does not beleive in god, since the penalty for disbelief is so severe, and a latter philosopher said that even a fractional probability that there is a god justifies our belief in Him since there is no penalty for disbelief.

Ah me, the journey is the lesson, is it not?

Merry New Year to us all.

ScotCharles

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Life is a river.
Carpe diem.

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jenn
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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #168240 - 12/30/05 11:08 PM

Let's face it - most people that are good souls don't do it for a ticket to Heaven. They do it because they want to be a good soul on earth.

Religious material was written with all those "do this or else.." because many people are shallow and only thinking of themselves so the authors try to write the literature to convince them that being nice will eventuallly be about them.

Most people are narrisistic. This is not to say that there are not millions of excellent souls on earth. But ask yourself this:
Do you not take money from a bank because it is wrong or because the doors are locked? There are people that would never take the money because it is wrong. Then, there are many people who would take the money if the doors were not locked. That's my point. As long as I would never take the money, I will die happy. No promises of an afterlife (but let's hope for life after death in any case!)
Jenn

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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #168310 - 01/01/06 11:19 AM

Oddly, studies have shown that most people if put in a position where they can steal without impunity or disclosure, choose not to steal. I think the reason this is so is because from an early age we learn that the price for being caught in the act of stealing is the loss of the benefits of social affinity. Of course, there are sociopaths for whom the loss of society is unimportant, but those people prove the theory since for them the price of loss is less than the benefits of stealing.

We are not narcissitic in the sense that we love ourselves to the exclusion of all else, but we are about continued existence. Think of all the things humans do cooperatively - build cities, govern countries, establish deities, punish wrong doers; then ask why do we do these things. We know that working cooperatively, furthers our self-interest; the price of civilization is affinity. Neither god, nor morality, nor religion calls most of us to a higher purpose rather it is enlightened self-interest that makes us better men and women.

Are there absolute goods and wrongs; on this I am conflicted. As an example, the murder of a tyrant may relieve the suffering of millions, or it may plunge a country into bloody civil war from which will emerge another tyrant. Conisider in this regard, Caesar's murder which lead to bloody civil war, the peaceful reign of Augustus and the tyrannies of the latter Julio-Claudians. Or the removal by force of Saddam Hussein which has exposed thousand year old wounds and led to civil war. Where lie the absolutes?

That said, beyond this illusory world made of accepted beliefs and precepts, there is nonetheless a Truth that lives beyond definition or expression. The journey to that Truth winds along many paths.

Merry New Year

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Life is a river.
Carpe diem.

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jenn
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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #168410 - 01/02/06 10:51 PM

I'll agree with you. But I see all the succesful things that people do in this society is as a result of successful capitalism. I work for the government - a socialistic set up. Generally speaking, no one will lose their job regardless as to whether they choose to work hard or not. And, I will tell you, most people don't work as hard as they work in the private sector. But they have no problem taking home their pay checks!! Why? Because they are not thinking about their customers 1st. The people that depend on them. They are thinking about themselves. I see it all around me. They don't understand true empathy.

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Re: Year-End Resolution new
      #171390 - 01/25/06 01:02 AM

Hello my old friend,,,

a voice from the past that i have not heard in about a year and still just as wise.....You have helped countless people here in so many ways, touching their lives with Your ability to be kind with Your words, loving, inspiring and most of all, positive with Your outlook on life and the meaning behind everything we do here.....Thank You friend for all You have done for me and may this New Year bring You much happiness and good health, with love and comfort knowing people You dont see or talk to regularly, think of You and love You.....Happy New Year!!!!!

Always,
~Jessie~
HIV+ since 2-3-04
"While there is Breath, there is Hope......Life".

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