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#99266 - 05/27/04 12:04 AM
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hi everyone. my situation: have had a few unprotected vaginal sexual encounters last year, and just last thursday totally out of the blue i woke up with weird symptoms. weird stomache ache (keeps me from eating normally), dry mouth (slightly white tongue with constant bad taste), headache that just doesn't go away (not pounding, but consistent, tight). today a full week later i still have these symptoms but not as bad. i'm still not eating normally. never really feel hungy. i've never had these types of sympoms without accompanied with a cold/flu type sickness. this is what scares me, that it's not just a flu/cold, and something much, much more serious.
i'm so scared and stressed and haven't gotten the courage to go get tested. i need to talk to other people about this. i can't tell my girlfriend. just can't do it. if anyone is experiencing similar symptoms and has or hasn't tested, i'd love to be able to talk to you and hopefully we can help each other emotionally, because i have nobody i can talk to about this. i feel alone, depressed, frustrated and angry that i could be so stupid to trade my life for a few nights of pleasure.
email: dsakiu@yahoo.com
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dude you're stressed. think about all the pressure you're putting on your body. i've done the same thing. my only questionable vaginal encounter unprotected was 9 months ago. i just got symptoms such as being run down, achey, headaches, lack of appetitie, etc... symptoms of hiv don't just pop out of the blue nine months later. i stopped worrying about it today and guess what... the symptoms went away. go out to burger king or something eat something shitty and i bet you you'll feel better. dude, i don't go around screwing gross chicks or those who are at high risk but have had unprotected sex before. yes, it's dumb but we do it. check out the signs of sever anxiety... they're all the ones you listed. one thing you should keep in mind is that contact with someone who is + doesn't mean you've been infected. i think its .1 or .2 % of people.
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The risk per episode of unprotected receptive vaginal sex with an HIV-positive partner is estimated to be between 0.1% and 0.2%. Your estimated risk would be less, because you were the insertive partner.
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is it REALLY that low of a percentage? as much as i love to hear something like that, between .1 and .2 percent is pretty low for vaginal transmission, isn't it? that's almost non existent. why is anal so much higher? please educate me.
thanks for the posts.
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Hi, I totally understand what you are going through. I have been going through some stress for the past year and half. The headaches have yet gone away. I am so terrified and I also don't have no one to talk to. I had an encounter with a guy who was HIV+. However we did not have anal sex or oral. We kissed deeply and had mutual mastubation. Nothing else happend. After that he told me he was HIV+ and I have had headaches every since that day. Athough the people on here are very helpful. I have yet had any of my questions really answered. So I know how you feel. I would love to talk to you and be someone you can talk to.
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Relax, friend, because first and foremost you can't tell anything by "symptoms". If you are worried that you are seroconverting at 1 year past exposure, you are wrong. And any kind of ARS "symptoms" would have happened 2-4 weeks past exposure.
However, there is no way to know your HIV status without testing. Yes, the risk for transmission is low from female to male, but it is not impossible. There are hetero males that have taken the risk and contracted the virus. Having sex without protection is just plain risky. It doesn't matter what you look like, where you live or how healthy you look. A person can have HIV and look healthy as a professional athelete (Magic, for example). It doesn't matter if you don't sleep with "gross girls" or that you think that they aren't "high risk". If you are a person that engages in unprotected sex, then you could be considered high risk. And, the reality is that women who engage in unprotected sex are being very risky, because of the nature of the vagina and the fact that it's basically a huge mucus membrane. So, you need to put these ideas about who "can have HIV" aside, and remember that it could happen to anyone who doesn't protect themselves.
I am not trying to convince you that you're positive, but I DO want to scare you into realizing how you have been playing with your health AND with the health of any woman that you have been with...because you DON'T KNOW YOUR STATUS! Since you are out of the window period, test now and you can know that your results are conclusive for those risks from a year ago. Since it sounds like you are in a more serious sexual relationship now with your GF, if you aren't planning on using condoms, you need to have BOTH of you test negative. If you want to do your test and test negative first before you go and test with her, do it! The important thing is that you test. I don't think that your girlfriend will be offended by bringing up testing, it is actually a very respectful and adult thing to do in a relationship. It may even bring you two closer.
In closing, I want to let you know that there is a 99.99999% chance that you will sneak by a-ok this time as far as HIV goes, but remember that if you keep playing russian roulette, you will most likely shoot yourself in the head at some point. Also, remember that there are a whole world of other STDs that are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV (it is a very fragile virus). Be careful, damn it! ;) Have as much fun as you want, but wrap it up until you know that you both are on the same page...
peace and good luck!
Chiquilla
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Pay no attention to that person who posted most recently. There are certain people that are denialists that insist that a very real virus called HIV doesn't exist. Try telling that to someone who has the virus. The best bet is just to ignore those kind of posts, because it's that kind of ignorance that keeps spreading this very preventable disease.
Regarding another poster's question about why anal sex is higher risk... It has to do with the makeup of that part of the body. As it is not "designed" (if you will) for receptive activity, there often is trauma in that region during anal sex. This trauma can range from visible breaks in the skin surrounding the anus with visible blood to minute fissures on the tissue inside of the anus. This offers a much more direct entry for the virus into the bloodstream. I mean, we're talking about possibly direct semen-blood contact. If ejaculation does not occur inside, that reduces the risk. However, precum can be an issue there...
To the best of my knowledge, this is the reason for the increased risk in anal sex.
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thanks for the post. very well put, and believe me when I say that I pray to God that I am negative, and if this is the case, then I am SOOO glad I got these symptoms and scared the hell out of myself. i needed it to make me realize it's not worth playing around with my life (and those of others) like this. i swear i will be safe from now on if i get this second chance. i still am scared to get tested, but i'm working on it.
by the way, for some odd reason i am almost feeling 100% today after i hit a rock bottom depression state last night. it's still weird to me. sure, it could have been caused from anxiety, but i wouldn't have had anxiety if i didn't get the symtoms that made me think i had hiv in the first place! kinda a catch-22, wouldn't u say? anxiety may have made my symptoms worse, but what actually CAUSED the symptoms in the first place is what bothers me.
anyways, this is a great place to hang out. you guys are all great. thanks everyone and good luck to us all.
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