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Help am i infected Scared MOM Did something bad
      #88500 - 02/16/04 09:17 PM

I recently went through a divorce and was with other people of unknown. But here is my question. I have 3 high risk ativities with the men. 2 anal unprotected 1 oral unprotected. I had spent the evening drinking and was on the rebound. it just happened and happened i have been out of the circle so long that i didnt realize this out out there.
This was the first and second weeks of November.
I have now had a chest cold, sore joints and muscles, sore throat my ears hurt, I have indegestion really bad. after i eat. My nerves are eating me up. The more i read the more i get upset. I read that eye floaters are a symptom I have them also. What should i do. I did race and get tested about 6-8 weeks after my last incourse. But It was neg. The lady or better yet nurse said not to worry it is ok. But I have read where it take at least 3 months to even show.
The nurse said she has to tell u 3 -6 months but usually is a lot earlier. Why am I now having these symtoms. I wake up in the night with wet in sweat now bad but wet. ( Now take in mind since the divorce i have now more in bed with me. 3 kids 6, 12, 8 and 2 dogs. they all get in my bed now to sleep it seems.) What am i to do I cant leave my kids their husband left me for a internet girl 1/2 my age. he hasnt even called in 3 months.
Why would i be having these symptoms now. not after the last chance. Its been over 4 months round about. Someone help me. I was going to call the nurse today but is a holiday. Someone please ease my mind and soul. Help

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Re: Help am i infected Scared MOM Did something bad new
      #88962 - 02/17/04 10:23 AM

Dear Anon;
Don't think you did anything wrong. Please do not judge yourself so badly, you are probably not nearly as bad as you are saying.
After all a bad person wouldn't let the family sleep in her bed!!!!!
None of us here can tell you if you are positive or not, but you should go ahead and get tested at 3 months. Whether or not you test at 6 is up to you, but the test is nothing compared to unattended HIV infection, so doing again at 6 will at least give you peace of mind.
There is currently disagreement to the timeframes and also whether or not to repeat at 6. I say what the hell do you have to loose, to gain some well earned peace in your life.
I feel that you are overloading yourself with guilt and stress, neither of which will help your overall health. Find sombody close that you trust and unload some of your anxieties. If you can't find somebody that you can trust get thee to your nearest AIDS organization.
Feeling for you!

"Living Positive Since '83"

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Re: Help am i infected Scared MOM Did something b new
      #88974 - 02/17/04 05:40 PM

Dear Scaredmom,

In any case, ears hurting, indigestion, eye floaters have NEVER been a sign of seroconversion. Moreover, symptoms should never be used to indicate the seroconversion status or not. Lots of false information is available on the web and you should refrain from looking at it. This being said, being tested negative at 6 weeks is an encouraging sign (your post is not clear as whether you tested at 6 weeks or 8, so I suppose it is 6) but, nonetheless, you have to test at 3 months to be on the safe side. Good luck and keep us posted, we are here to help.

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Re: Help am i infected Scared MOM Did something bad new
      #89019 - 02/17/04 08:00 PM

Enough time has passed that you can take a test and get accurate results. 90 days is enough. test for peice of mind but keep in mind just because you had unsafe sex, regardless of the so called symptoms, does not mean you have HIV. Stop the unsafe sex for heavens sake!

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Re: Help am i infected Scared MOM Did something bad new
      #89188 - 02/18/04 01:49 PM

Settle down. Your anxiety is probably what is making you feel this way.. along with a common cold (it is winter!) Some unmedicated and unofficially diagnosed people that are positive do not show general symptoms for 6 years+ (like my father)

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