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Can I get HIV from fingering? Casual encounter and terrified about it
      #274459 - 12/11/13 04:10 PM

My boyfriend broke up with me and I was really sad and feeling really unattractive. So a friend told me to hock up with someone and I contact a guy from craigslist. I went to his house and we had sex, and I felt my vagina opening tearing a bit (I hadn't had sex in a while), we use a condom, he went soft and pull out, no condom slippage. Then we started talking, and we were smocking, and he was playing with the lighter, playing with the flame and touching it with his fingers. Then we started to get busy again and he fingered me because we didn't have more condoms and I say no to sex without one. I give him a hand job while he was fingering me. The thing is that I am scared because he didn't wear latex globes while fingering me, and he was playing with the lighter and now I think "what if I got hiv from the fingering?" I am scared, I don't usually contact guys on the internet, this was my first one night stand, I have just had one sexual partner before (my ex) and we were pretty strict on safe sex. I am really scared. This guy seems nice, but I am scared that he proposed sex without a condom several times, I mean this is a guy who posted an add online and he was ok with sex without a condom, that is not ok. I know people usually have unprotected sex, and I have read online that guys try not to wear condoms on one night stands, but I am still terrified. The guy was nice, we went for a coffee before going to his place, we talked a lot, he told me that he broke up with his girlfriend a month ago and that he was faithful to her, that he had unprotected sex with his girlfriend (just the pill, no condom), and that he got used to not wear a condom (he didn't want to wear one because he went soft with them on). I stay firm on condom always on, and he didn't penetrate me without one, but he did finger me without latex gloves, I didn't realize about the lighter playing till later. I knew that my vagina was tear because it hurted, in the moment and the day after the event, but I saw no blood when I clean myself. I am really scared. I asked him about hiv, he got tested a couple of years ago in Canada. I know I was stupid and a slut, but I just wanted my ex not to be my only sexual partner, I wanted to erase him, he was so cruel to me during the break up and I was devastated. Please if you have been throw similar situations share you experiences with me, and any advice is welcome. (I don't know if he burnt his finger with the lighter or not, but I know that he played with the flame a couple of times, touching it, and then after lets say 10 minutes he was fingering me, can I get HIV from that?)

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Re: Can I get HIV from fingering? Casual encounter and terrified about it new
      #274460 - 12/11/13 04:37 PM

It's not likely that he would have done any major damage to himself, unless he has no feeling in his hands. What you described would not be a risk for transmission. Kudos for always insisting on condoms!

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Re: Can I get HIV from fingering? Casual encounter and terrified about it new
      #274474 - 12/13/13 11:57 PM

No exposure!

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Re: Can I get HIV from fingering? Casual encounter and terrified about it new
      #274502 - 12/20/13 03:27 PM

There is very very very little chance of contraction of any STI based on finger penetration. Unless, there were some form of blood to blood contact, I wouldn't worry so much about it.

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