A thousand questions borne of terror & sadness...

I had inebriated sex with someone other than my wife almost a full month ago. Because I was drunk, the condom I was trying to use did not stay on and I continued to have sex with her despite the lack of condom, in my stupidly drunk state.

Two days after this unprotected sex, my wife gave me unprotected oral (I did not cum, but pre-cum was involved) and we had protected intercourse. I was sober at the time, so the condom stayed on the whole time.

Three days after the drunk sex, I started experiencing an urgent need to pee and great discomfort when I peed. On top of that, the urine was always foamy. This lead me to get a urine test from my doctor. I expected it to be a UTI or something. It turned out clean, my urine. I was tested a second time when it was clear it wasn't going away. It was clean again.

My wife and I got feeling like we had head-colds for about a week, but we both got antibiotics and they seemed to clear us of our symptoms. She had a really bad sore throat and congestion. I had neck pain and swollen lymph nodes and tiredness. The antibiotics seemed to help some of my ill feeling, but not all. And my foamy, uncomfortable urination didn't end. Plus, my sore lymph nodes (primarily armpit) didn't seem to go away. My wife's symptoms left her after the antibiotic, as I said, and she assumed it was because our toddler had brought a headcold home from daycare.

I also started experiencing a rapid (instant, seemingly) onset of dry, red, itchy eyes. I have to use eyedrops daily now. They feel gritty all the time, too.

It was after the continuation of the lymph node pain and the neverending foamy urine (sometimes uncomfortable and sometimes not...varying amounts...varying levels of urgency...varying colors depending on what I drank), plus a general feeling of unease/malaise that lead me to get the full panel of STD testing.

I first came back negative on Gonorrhea and Chlamydia and next got negative results on Hep C, and HSV 2. Syphilis, too, was negative. Trick, finally, came back negative as well. My first test for HIV (and only so far) was done at roughly 3.5 weeks after possible infection.

The doctor said that, if I was experiencing these symptoms due to HIV, it would show up on a test this early for sure, because the lymph nodes and the urinating would be symptomatic of acute HIV reaction and the blood test (HIV 1/2 EIA AB SCREEN) would definitely show something. It came back "non-reactive". Not sure if DNA/RNA restesting was done or antibody retesting.

After my initial head-cold-like symptoms showed up before the STD tests, I was given azithromycin. I stopped taking it three days in because we got into the STD testing. Also, it was clear that it wasn't affecting my lymph nodes or urinating issues. So, the doctor moved on to possible other causes. Yeast infection w/ prostatitis and possible epididymitis. So, she gave me doxy and diflucan. I went through all seven days of that and it did nothing to affect my main symptoms.

On top of that, I've begun to experience some more symptoms that I can't really explain, but are physical and not mental.

I'm extremely dry. Mouth with stringy spit. Whitish tongue. A redness on my cheeks. Facial wasting and gluteal wasting (I know, you think I'm making this up...but as a fat man, I know where my fat is supposed to be and where it's not) in small pockets. My entire body is covered in a level of dry skin that I've never experienced in my entire life. My skin feels hypersensitive and items make impressions on my body (arms/legs) that don't leave in the normal period of time. Putting my hands into my pockets is now a bit excruciating. I have started using heavy duty hydrating lotion. I've started brushing my teeth with my daughter's toothpaste so as to avoid mouth dryness. It doesn't really help all that much.

I believe I'm losing hair and the hair itself is now limp and lacking its usual volume. I haven't had a single zit in weeks, which is not at all like me. Sitting is uncomfortable now because of the gluteal wasting no one seems to believe is occurring.

I understand some of these symptoms can be psychological. I know that's a powerful medical factor, but I also know my own body.

I guess my question is this: If it's not HIV, what is it? Is there any possibility at ALL that it could be something else if the symptoms listed above are happening and not going away with antibiotics?

Also, is it possible for HIV to really give a person urinary problems (foamy, urgent, uncomfortable urination) three days after exposure?

I theorize that I was infected and that maybe a pre-existing condition was triggered by HIV. Is it possible for something pre-existing to jump into existence due to contraction of HIV, even if it's just three days later? My sister has Sjogren's and my mom has MS. My dad had lymphoma. My aunt has diabetes. I have a lot of options in terms of things hidden in my genetics that HIV can "unlock", but does it really happen that quickly? Is it even possible?

If not, what about HIV could trigger this? A kidney infection?

My doctor is doing more tests on non-STD options, but I don't expect to hear back anything promising. My only "lead" so far is Sjogren's. I keep hoping it's that, but I believe I'm dealing with HIV. Nothing else seems to fit the situation except HIV.

In the meantime, my wife (who, again, I only had unprotected oral with after the potential exposure) got past her other symptoms...but the first period she had after that unprotected BJ was a long time in coming and was really an awful one when it finally came. Now, she's experiencing a sudden intense hip pain that doesn't seem to want to go away (a couple days now) and the upset gut feelings that come with a period.

I'm back to freaking out that somehow my pre-cum gave her HIV as well, as improbable as that is. Is it possible? I've heard it's unlikely...and even improbable.

Regardless, after my results come back next week, I will know where next to go, I hope. I will obviously still be getting my 3 month test and, if it's negative, my 6 month. Also, my one-time unprotected partner is supposed to be getting a test next week. If she was a carrier of HIV...hopefully she was infected long enough for it to show up conclusively. Also, I hope she's honest with me about the results. If not, I will have to wait until the three month mark unless my symptoms get worse. My doctor is also setting up an appointment with an HIV specialist, so I hope to get in to see someone soon, regardless of my status. It might take a while to get in to see him, though, she said.

I know I'm rambling.

1.)
Mainly, I'm trying to figure out how I could test negative on an HIV test if I've had symptoms since day one, thus alluding to acute HIV infection. Is that even possible?

2.)
If it's not HIV, what options do I have that include foamy urine, lymph node pain consistently, weight loss, dry skin, dry eyes, dry mouth and possible gluteal/facial wasting?

3.)
Is it possible my wife got HIV from giving me oral if I was infected, despite my achieving orgasm? If so, do her symptoms sound in line with acquiring HIV?

4.)
Is it even possible for hair loss, weight loss, and gluteal/facial wasting to occur a month into HIV infection?

5.)
If it IS possible and it DOES seem like I have HIV, should I be more proactive about anything? What else can I do? All of the symptoms I'm experiencing seem to be an effect of later-stage HIV. Is it possible I have a super-fast-deteriorating form of HIV?

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