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Sprite1
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PARTNER IS NOW ILL - SO FRIGHTENED
      #230565 - 09/09/07 11:53 AM

My girlfriend, who I cheated on to get into this horrible mess in the first place, is now ill. Swollen glands, sore throat, tired, been sick. BUT SHE HAS A RASH TOO. Yeah, she has allergies. No, the rash hasn't concerned her as she thinks it's allergies. All I can think? I've given her HIV.

We have not had any kind of sex since my infidelity. She does not know I cheated on her.

We have only kissed - but my gums have always been in a poor state, I often see a speck of blood on an apple after taking a bite, for example... I may have been chewing my lip absent-mindedly...

If I'm infected myself, maybe I can go on, someday... but if I've put her at risk, and she's now infected, despite trying not to, I couldn't live another day. I feel like the world is shattering around me.

Yes, I know it could just be coincidence but I don't believe it is. I'm not only a cheating scumbag now; I'm a third-degree murderer potentially. I can't cope with this.

I'm seeing a Doctor on Monday for some anxiety help but they're NOT HIV specialists. Seven weeks till my 13th week test.

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Jackie__Blue
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Re: PARTNER IS NOW ILL - SO FRIGHTENED new
      #230567 - 09/09/07 01:01 PM

Sprite -

Time to take a deep breath and look at some FACTS....not fancy.

1) The risk of infection for ACTUAL vaginal intercourse is 5 in 10,000 with a woman KNOWN TO BE HIV POSTIVE. Pretty damn low per occurance. While you "think" you might have slipped in, you didn't actually have sex. Since you have displayed an over active imagination it would be sensible to conclude that you probably didn't even slip in.

2) So now you have convinced yourself that you have infected your girlfriend from kissing. Kissing is not considered a risk. You tell me where it is on this CDC list.
xposure Route Risk per 10,000 exposures
to an infected source

Blood Transfusion 9,000
Needle-sharing 67
Receptive Anal 50
Percutaneous Needlestick 30
Receptive Vaginal 10
Insertive Anal 6.5
Insertive Vaginal 5
Receptive Oral 1
Insertive Oral 0.5

There has been one case (ONE CASE) in the last 25 years and hundreds of thousands of cases that implicated kissing. The CDC investigate and found extenuating circumstances.

Research has proven that Saliva inhibits the transmission of HIV. So if you think that you infected your girlfriend this way you would have had to had a mouthful of blood dripping at the corners of your mouth. Not very kissable if you ask me.

While a 13 week test is still considered definitive in the US (many other countries have a smaller window) a 6 week test is a very good indicator of your status, since about 99% of people infected will test postive by 6 weeks. Get a test then and maybe you can stop the downward spirial you have gotten yourself into.

You didn't have a risk. You didn't infect your girlfriend. Keep going with your imagination as your are and you will soon be joining Chrisbadmushroom, aka Chrisinneed, aka VonDouche, aka EricF, aka HUGE NUTCASE. Get the point?






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chrisbadmushroom
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Re: PARTNER IS NOW ILL - SO FRIGHTENED new
      #230570 - 09/09/07 02:25 PM

i told him

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Re: PARTNER IS NOW ILL - SO FRIGHTENED new
      #230593 - 09/09/07 09:15 PM

if you didnt have sex , you could not of infected her, you would have to bleed right into a wound on her, you are just filled with guilt , i would suggest coming clean and go have your 7 wk test and than test at 13 ,, she might forgive you and she might not but that is the way things are.

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