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Had sex with HIV+ partner - Freaking out
      #208310 - 09/24/06 03:29 PM

I am terrified. Almost a month ago I had unprotected sex with a woman I had good reasons to suspect after the act. It was insertive vaginal intercourse without a condom (how stupid of me), I am circumsized (heard there are studies that indicate it seems to reduce chances of transmission from female to male). The day after we had sex I tried convincing her to get an HIV test... she refused. I seeked PEP treatment and began the treatment at 63 hours following the sexual act.
She finally got tested last week and she is positive.
I am on my third week of PEP treatment but now that she has confirmed she is positive I am freaking out! Can't sleep, can't eat.... Can't study.

I am terrified. My doctor told me to relax because he says that I have less of chance of being infected than I think and that compared to other behaviors, I was at a lower risk although the possibility of infection could not be ignored. This was a one time event... I am so afraid. I tested negative at the baseline for HIV and for other STDs. Has anyone ever been in my predicament and got out of it? Please help, I need to hear from others. My life is at a stand-still. Thank you.

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Re: Had sex with HIV+ partner - Freaking out new
      #208317 - 09/24/06 05:04 PM

Everything your doc is telling you is true... No reason to stop life for something like this...


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Re: Had sex with HIV+ partner - Freaking out new
      #208381 - 09/25/06 02:14 AM

bushyman - your dr. is telling you the truth - but, there is a risk. the reason that you are freaking out is because you are so afraid of this condition. Well I have it, and like you, before i was diagnosed i was freaked stiff with fear - the truth is, those of us here, with this condition - will tell you that one comes to terms with it, and life will go on , because we will live - so would you if you were poz. try your best to calm down - it is overwhelming worry i know - but it's not necessary to fear this like you do - respect it and take care of yourself - and remember there are those here that will help you with comfort, information and good advice through our own experiences - good luck

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Re: Had sex with HIV+ partner - Freaking out new
      #208392 - 09/25/06 08:28 AM

Dear Bushyman,

I understand how you feel.

I had sex with a prostitute(with a condom) recently but am showing many of the expected symptoms. Like you, I can hardly go to work with fear and my sleeping is totally screwedup. I feel terrible, just like you. All I can do is wish you the best of luck, I have a feeling you will be ok, as it,s not an automatic infection when you have sex, you just have to be unlucky. Let me know how you get on

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Re: Had sex with HIV+ partner - Freaking out new
      #208408 - 09/25/06 11:00 AM

Dear Walkerbd,

Believe me, you are in a much better position than I am. Once you see your Doc you'll see that your symptoms were probably caused by something else. Your chances of contracting HIV while properly wearing a condom are almost inexistant. Don't worry about it.

Me on the other hand, I feel as if I am walking in a mine field hoping that I will not trigger one. You see my 7 minutes of pleasure is a nightmare now. I have much to lose... I have two kids, I live with my girlfriend who loves me infinately... So aside from being worried sick, my concious is killing me (and rightly so).

I had sex with someone who is HIV + dude, unprotected sex, odds in my favor or not (even with PEP treatment which I started 63 hours after the fact which is also kind of late) I am terrified... I pray for the best and believe me if everything turns out ok a month from now...or not... it is one hell of a lesson.

Thanks for your post and for the others who have responded so far as well. I hope to hear from someone who was in my situation and got out of it.

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Re: Had sex with HIV+ partner - Freaking out new
      #208756 - 09/27/06 04:27 AM

I can relate to what you are going thru, I had a simmilar situation 11.5 weeks ago. I had night sweats, white tongue, chills, couldnt sleep, weight loss,. and several other things going on. In less than 2 weeks, I will be convinced it was overwelming guilt. I also cheated on my girlfriend of 3 years who just moved in with me a month earlier. It was with a girl whose status was possible positive from some actions and comments said after the act. I have tested 3 times, all negative so far. Feel free to PM me, and I will go thru some of the worries and hell I was going thru.

Good Luck, and God Bless

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