Condom Slipping off - TheBody.com's Bulletin Boards

OK - I will be the one to comfort you. But if you think you have nothing to worry about, then why do you need it? :-)

Condoms provide extremely effective protection. HIV cannot pass though a condom. You were protected most of the time.

The odds of transmission from a female to a male are estimated at around 1 in 10,000 per incident, if I remember correctly. Remember that presupposes that the female is positive in the first place, which is not (statistically) likely. It also refers to totally unprotected sex, not a few seconds of slippage.

Whether you ejaculated or not is irrelevant to your risk (it would be if we were talking about your partner's risk).

The fact that your partner is testing too is good I suppose, in the sense that it will help your anxiety if she tests negative. But even if she tested positive, the odds would still be dramatically stacked in your favour.

If you test at 12-13 weeks you can be sure of the result. A negative result at any time after 6 weeks would be very reassuring. Some people say that if you have a low risk (I would put you in that catagory) and test negative at 6 weeks nothing further is needed since the odds of you actually being positive are so small. The same logic would apply to your partner. The combined odds of her being positive, transmitting HIV to you and then you both testing negative at six weeks but both being actually positive would be so astronomically small as to be equivalent to being hit by a meteor. So personally, I would both test at 6 weeks and put this behind you. But, in the end it is up to you to decide what level of comfort you need and the 'official' advice of almost all authorities is that one test taken at 12-13 weeks past the incident is definative and conclusive.

Good luck getting through this - it is tough to deal with the fear. But I would bet my house that fear is all this is about and this is not an HIV situation.

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