Advertisement
The Body: The Complete HIV/AIDS Resource
Follow Us Follow Us on Facebook Follow Us on Twitter Download Our App
Professionals >> Visit The Body PROThe Body en Espanol

HIV Transmission and Education >> Am I Infected?

Pages: 1
Anonymous
Unregistered

The lovely "freak out" window period
      #159927 - 09/12/05 09:16 PM

Let's see what you guys think! I'm sure Dr. Franscino is getting sick of my emails, but it helps me get thru each day.

Here are my facts:
Had unprotected oral sex with an escort and she kissed me as well (saw the dentist two days previous so possible sore/bleeding gums), which grosses me out just thinking about it now.

No problems at all for 6 wks til I went on vacation with my long distance girlfriend and she said she was feeling "weird" and did not feel well at all. I started to freak - could not sleep, eat, nausea, night sweats etc... Could have been just freaking out! I should also mention she spotted a reddish blotch on the inside of my lip a week after exposure, which I blew off as me having bit my lip.

So I return home and immediately make an appointment to get tested. I was negative at 50 days and again negative at 57 days, which I read is accurate 95% of the time.. I still have dry mouth, itching, prickley sensations, nausea, diarrhea, sore/stiff neck, sore lower back, low grade fevers/clamminess and now burning/strange sensations in my armpit glands. I also just spotted a rash on my upper back. These are all symptoms I am having at the 8/9 week mark.

I also arranged to see the escort again to ask her her status. She was emphatic that every time she returns home to Houston she gets tested for everything and she has tested negative twice since our encounter and has never had any symptoms or so she told me.

So, I wait, a wreck that I have ruined my life and worse I ruined the life of my girlfriend whom I planned to get engaged to in January. I can't bear the thought! I could be freaking out and looking for all the symptoms, which seems not that unusual or I could be right. What do you guys think? I talked to a nurse who works for a infectious disease specialist today and she basically told me I have next to nothing to worry about and she would not even let me make an appointment to get a pcr test done to calm me down at least.

Please help!

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
Anonymous
Unregistered

Re: The lovely "freak out" window period new
      #159928 - 09/12/05 09:55 PM

dude just chill i think you will be fine

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
SteveR
Legend

Reged: 07/19/05
Posts: 576
Re: The lovely "freak out" window period new
      #159937 - 09/13/05 09:28 AM

When you say you "had unprotected oral sex," are you talking giving or receiving? If she was performing oral on you, there's really no risk at all. And if you were performing oral, there MAY be a slight risk IF she were infected -- but it sounds like she's not. So I think you're worked up over nothing. Visiting the dentist two days before this encounter would not leave you more vulnerable in any way.

My armchair-psychology conclusion is that this is really more about guilt and anxiety over your encounter and its effects on your relationship than a realistic fear of HIV.

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
Anonymous
Unregistered

Re: The lovely "freak out" window period new
      #159940 - 09/13/05 09:35 AM

I received unprotected oral sex. Plus, I began flossing after that dental visit and my gums were very sore for a period.

What also makes me freak out is my girlfriend saying things like she is nauseas, her lower back hurts, she does not feel welll, etc...and this was just last night!

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
daisey6205
Legend

Reged: 09/08/05
Posts: 1091
Loc: kansas
Re: The lovely "freak out" window period new
      #159941 - 09/13/05 09:35 AM

I am sure you will be ok, but you really need to wait the full 3 months. I kept testing and testing because of my nerves, all my test were negative also, until the 3 months. A pcr test won't do you any good as long as you are in the window period. You will just be wasting your money if you get that test, especially if your other tests are negative right now. Calm down and relax. Be honest with yourself and your girlfriend. Maybe this is what you needed as a wake up call. We all get one sooner or later.
I hope that your test is negative, but if it is positive it is not the end of the world. I am certain that you are going to be fine.
Are you going to see the escort again????

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
SteveR
Legend

Reged: 07/19/05
Posts: 576
Re: The lovely "freak out" window period new
      #159943 - 09/13/05 09:46 AM

Receiving oral sex is not risky. And flossing isn't risky either, if all you did with your own mouth is kiss her.

As for your girlfriend, well, she could just be sick! You're connecting dots that are pretty far away from each other...

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
Anonymous
Unregistered

Re: The lovely "freak out" window period new
      #160150 - 09/17/05 01:01 PM

While I am not educated at all about HIV.. I am educated on anxiety seeing that I suffer from it myself.

While you just received oral sex and just kissed this woman.. I highly doubt that you could be HIV +..just by reading information on here. While your wife is suffering from nausea, back pain... Does she have the flu? Is her period coming? Those are some menstrual symptoms. I am a big person to worry over nothing but I wouldnt even be worrying about that. Take it easy. :)

Post Extras: Remind Me!   Notify Moderator  
Pages: 1


What's New at TheBody.com

Additional Information
0 registered and 2 anonymous users are browsing this forum.

Moderator:  TheBody, bogart, crabman, riverprincess 

Permissions
      You cannot start new topics
      You cannot reply to topics
      HTML is enabled
      UBBCode is enabled

Thread views: 2791

 
Jump to

Contact Us | Privacy Statement The Body

*
UBB.threads™ 6.2.3