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HIV- falling head over heals w/HIV+ & confused
#82523 - 01/27/04 01:00 PM
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I'm HIV- and recently met and went on a few dates with an awesome guy who is HIV+. He told me he was HIV+ on our second date, after I told him I was a recovering alcoholic. The fact that he disclosed his HIV status so honestly to me is so incredibly brave and admirable. We talked that night until 4:30 a.m. We have both had such a hugh dose of reality at 25 years of age and because of this we understand each other and connect on a deep level for only knowing each other for a week. I have had a few serious relationships and I know, for the most part, what I want in a partner and what I'm willing to give. He seems to have so many qualities that are important to me and very attractive to me. I'm scared about sexual intimacy, and I'm scared about not knowing very much about HIV. I would like to have fun right now, take things slow, and not jump into a "marriage" after 2 weeks, but having to think about wheter or not it's worth it to me to persue this, or whether or not I'm willing to make the adjustments and sacrifices I'm going to have to make, kind of kills the romance. I've decided to persue a relationship with him, and give everything I have to this. I bought a book, I'm going to call my GP and talk to him about HIV, and I'm surfing the web for info. If anyone has any experience in this area and has some guidence, resources, advice, etc. for me I would so greatly appreciate it. This guy seems to be an incredible human being and I think I would be more scared if I turned away and didn't persue this. Thanks.
Edited by TheBody (01/27/04 11:15 PM)
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I JUST READ YOUR POST AND AM SO GLAD YOU HAVE NOT REJECTED THIS GUY. I HAVEN'T YET READ ANY OTHER RESPONSES, BUT WILL WHEN I'M FINISHED HERE. I AM HIV+ AND HAVE BEEN IN A MONOGOMOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH A HIV- MAN FOR OVER TEN YEARS. HE HAS BEEN THE MOST WONDERFUL THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME. I'M SO GLAD HE DIDN'T RUN WHEN I TOLD HIM I WAS HIV+ THAT FIRST NIGHT. WE JUST PLAY SAFELY. JUST REMEMBER, YOU WILL NOT BE THE ONLY ONE THAT WILL HAVE TO MAKE SACRIFICES. WE HAVE BOTH HAD TO SACRIFICE OUR DESIRES SEXUALLY TO KEEP HIM SAFE. WE HAVE BOTH HAD TO REALIZE THAT THERE MAY BE ROUGH TIMES AHEAD FOR ME PHYSICALLY, AND FOR HIM BEING A CAREGIVER. AND WE HAVE BOTH HAD TO BE MORE FRUGAL FINANCIALLY, BECAUSE I'M ON DISABILITY SO HIS INCOME IS THE MAJOR CONTRIBUTOR IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. THERE ARE A LOT OF THINGS THAT WILL CHANGE FOR YOU AND FOR HIM, BUT THAT IS THE WAY IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. AS LONG AS YOU BOTH CARE FOR EACH OTHER, RESPECT EACH OTHER AND DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU REMAIN HIV- , YOU CAN HAVE A VERY FULLFILLING LIFE TOGETHER. BECOME EDUCATED ABOUT HIV, FOR HIM AND FOR YOU. BEST WISHES!!!
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I think that you are a great guy. He must be really special. Im HIV positive male and i would love to find someone like u. I mean if i fall in love with a negative guy. I know it most be tough for you. But u know something, there is no impossible in life and HIV is just a status, nowadays there are great medications out there and we can live an eternity. Honesty is very important and this guy has been really honesty with u and thats very important. I wish u lots of luck in your new love!!!!
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I just had to reply when I read your note. I am HIV+ and I have been with my HIV- partner for over 10 wonderful years. I met him shortly after I found out I was HIV+. I told him about my status the first night we met. I was still in a "oh my God I'm going to die phase". He had a previous partner that passed away from AIDS a couple of years before we met. All of his friends thought he was crazy for hooking up with another HIV+ partner. I was terrified I would give it to him. He told me we'd play safe and use the time we had and make the most of it. There have been ups and downs with my health, medications and mental state. I've had to deal with lipodystrophy (a little lipo surgery worked wonders!). I've been able to remain employed full time throughout and this has been the best 10 years of my life. I have a feeling you are just as awsome as you new love interest. My partner is my rock and I firmly believe I would not be here today without his support. You may be saving a life, literally. Play Safe and I wish you much happiness with your awsome HIV+ guy.
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I just had to reply to your post.
I am HIV- and have been in a monogamous relationship with a HIV+ for three years. My boyfriend told me about his status on the second date. Then I did not now much about HIV or had come across anyone who was HIV+ because I was not in the scene and I was in a monogamous relationship from a very young age. When he told me that he is + I leant over and kissed him. Three years later and we are as happy and in love as the very first day.
There isn’t a moment when I think about his HIV status.
HIV+ is only a status.
He is my love, my everything and nothing is gonna change that.
Go for it and you will realize that being HIV+ is only a status and you can have a very satisfying sex life.
Life is short and special people don’t come that often.
I have got the most special of all :o)
Good luck
Ga
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Dear Hiv-, I too am Hiv- and I have been in a relationship with an Hiv+ man for almost 2 years now and I wasn't scared at first but now his #'s are wacked out and I am really scared.
I wouldn't mind chatting with you about some of the ups and downs of being in a Magnetic relationship. My e-mail address is gmac5233@aol.com. If you feel comfortable, I would like to hear from you.
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Please email me at gerz99@hotmail.com
Thanks
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