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Kiss of death?
#79341 - 12/20/03 02:53 AM
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Recently I french kissed an HIV+ guy for a long time ( I didn't know he was positive). I am really worried now, because I have a bad habit of chewing on the inside of my cheeks (I know, disgusting) and they bleed. We watched a movie (2 hours) before he came onto me and we started kissing. I wasn't chewing my cheeks at the time, so I am hoping that I didn't have any "fresh" open wounds on my cheeks. How long would a small open sore inside of the mouth take to coagulate? I am so worried. I don't remember tasting his blood and he told me that his gums and mouth are in good health. Should I get tested? Thanks.
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Yes, you should get tested, but not because you french kissed a positive guy, but because you're worried. Chances are pretty slim that you contracted HIV through french kissing (sores or no sores), but getting tested is the only way to know and knowing is the only thing that will relieve your worry. If you are (or are in the process of becoming) a sexually active adult, you're going to be taking risks (some bigger than others), so you should understand that YOU are ultimately responsible for YOUR body. Part of that responsibility is getting tested regularly for HIV, and there is nothing to be ashamed about. Granted getting an HIV test isn't exactly stress free, especially if it's your first. But that's why you should go for the test, to empower yourself by taking charge of a scarey situation. You need to walk right into the facility with your head held high and boldly request an HIV test -- THE REASON IS OF NO CONSEQUENCE and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Waiting for the results isn't without anxiety. But that's part of the drill and it empower you for next time you get tested for HIV... or any of the other medical tests you'll face. And what if it comes back positive? (Unlikely, but possible). You'll handle that situation like a mature adult and deal with those challenges head-on. It's fear, denial, shame, and blame that made HIV and AIDS the crisis it is. So don't get bogged down in all of that. Instead, get tested and read up on how HIV is contracted, talk to your healthcare provider openly about your practices and concerns, and take charge! For the future, if think you have a right to know about your partners' HIV status, then ask him if he doesn't tell you -- otherwise just assume he is when deciding on what risks to take. Afterall, did you warn him that your cheeks were prone to bleeding before "he came onto you"? ;) My point is: it doesn't matter who did what to whom -- but what you allow to happen to yourself. HIV isn't the kiss of death. Believe me, I've learned this the hard way!
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Hi guy. I totaly agree with "anonomous" (boy he sure gets around,lol). You should get tested regardless of that steamy kiss. Anyone who is sexually active should get tested. And if you do something like that kiss and it worries you, get tested. When I was diagnosed (I was quite a slut) people would say, "Who gave it to you?". I just answered, "It doesn't matter. I did nothing to stop it from happening." You've got to take responsibilty for your own choices. It's too bad that a nice long french kiss can now be something to worry about, but that's how it is. We have to live our lives differently than before. And we have to decide what we are willing to risk for ourselves, stay informed, and keep our partners informed because some of them won't ask. Good luck kid.
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